2007-02-13 14:28:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your family loves you they should be willing to accept the person you love. They should never put you in the position of having to choose.
If you choose your love over your family be sure in your heart that your love is worthy of you. Then go on with your life and make a new family for yourself....trusted friends can make a better family than the one you are born into. Good luck.
2007-02-13 14:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing why your family made you make that decision, its difficult to say. If he's a decent guy, doesn't break the law, has a job, treats you right, etc, and you are over 18 yr old, they shouldn't make you choose between him or them. Even if they believe he's wrong for you, they should let you find out for yourself. But if he's a real creep, and they made you choose because there is no way they could ever accept a low-life such as that into the family, then you probably made a big mistake. Just don't have any kids (at least for a couple years and you know its really going to work).
2007-02-13 15:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends upon how you define a "bad person". I would say that you're "a person who made a bad/good choice". Anyways, sorry lol, Clearly if you're choosing your lover over your family, and i assume you love your family, there must be something going on with your family. Do they not like your lover? You can respect your family and their desires and wishes for your life, but ultimately, you have to do what makes you happy. However, if they don't want you with your lover b/c he/she abuses you or something serious/life threatening like that, then I totally understand why they may not be supportive of your choice. Feel free to tell more about your story, cause i feel like i was shooting in the dark haha
2007-02-13 14:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by rockingballerina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that does not make you a bad person. You can't choose your family but you can choose the ones you love. I am kind of in the same situation right now, but if you give it time and see that the person you are with really loves you and can take care of you, your family might come around.
I wish you luck
2007-02-13 14:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by jenimiper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur family always want the best thing to happen to their love 1s, its still depends on the reason why ur family dont like the person, and if u know ur family is rite and u still ignored it, then doesnt make u a bad person but it makes u an ignorant stupid person ,just remember 1 thing whenever u get to the end of the road ,ur family is the only ones that b there for u.
2007-02-13 14:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, your free to choose who ever you want, regardless it's family or not. You shouldn't have been put in the position to choose but it's still doesn't make you a bad person. Family will always be family, but that person you love, will he always be there & love you forever? make sure he does before you actually really move on. You don't choose unless he is your husband or planning to be.
2007-02-13 15:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your circumstances are but I can tell you from a mother whose daughter also chooses her husband over her family how I feel. When it is cold I pray my daughter is warm. When there is bad weather I worry IS my daughter alright. I worry that she has no one to talk to about things . I've always had my mother and sisters and my brother if I need them who will she have if the marriage doesn't work? What if she isn't happy and stays because she feels she has no one in the world but him. My daughter brought me to my knees for 9 years now. I would do anything to have her back in my life. I pray that you will find a way to have both your family and your husband/boyfriend in your life so your family doesn't suffer every day as I do.
2007-02-13 14:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a bad thing...but just remember dont shut out your family totally because hwen you are in trouble your family will always be there and they will be the first place you will turn when you are in trouble...
I suggest if you are happy with the person you are with now stay with him/her but make up to your family as well and if you believe tht this is the right person your family will see tht too....and involve him/her with your family so they can get to know your soulmate!
2007-02-13 14:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by abc123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your final decision depends on alot of variables:
1) Is there a good reason why your family is doubting this person for you? Is he/she abusive or mean? Does he/she have ambition or career goals?
2) Is this because a different race or religion? For example, if you have kids what beliefs will he/she have? Are you willing to face the challenges from family and society?
3) If this person is in fact good for you, you sometimes have to fight for someone/something you believe in. If he/she demonstrates to your family they care and love you, in time they'll understand.
2007-02-13 14:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by ccas2200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not! That's part of growing up, the fact that we all have to make our own decisions and be prepared to live with the consequences.
Just be careful. If it's the person you love who is saying "it's them or me" then they might be trying to isolate you and keep you from having a support system. Abusers do that to their victims, take them away from family and friends who might help the victim get out of the abusive situation.
2007-02-13 14:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by Ruby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋