So Im in a relationship now. My GF and I are very happy. I hear that if a guy is too nice...then girls get bored of them and leave. Is that true? I mean...Im the kind that I dont see women as sex material, u noe...and i definately hate 1 night stand. Im really nice and my GF noes...im just scared she would leave me becos of that?
2007-02-13 14:26:30 · 14 answers · asked by Marty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
here's a simple solution.
Jerks/Bad Boys = one night stands, guilty pleasures
Nice Guys = boyfriend/husband material, worth everything that comes with it.
2007-02-13 14:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A smart girl who is less concerned with superficial qualities than with good character will chase after someone who is reliable and emotionally available.
Unfortunately, most girls don't become this smart until they've passed those years of reckless abandonment. I'm estimating that it's probably halfway through college or later.
Before then girls are usually more into guys who have attitude, even if the guy isn't good looking. Even if the guy is a ten, if he doesn't have the attitude he won't be chased.
However, as the guy with the moral fiber you have, you have to rise above the impulse to become a bad boy and realize that being a good person is more important than getting a girl at the cost of your integrity.
If your girlfriend deserves you, then you shouldn't have a problem.
2007-02-13 14:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by A L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, being a nice guy can pay off. It is said that nice guys finish last, but then sometimes being last is the best! If your girlfriend leaves you because you're nice, she's not the woman for you. If you're really a nice guy, women will hear about it and some will stand in line for a chance to grab you for their own...
2007-02-13 14:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They only time that being a nice guy doesn't pay off is when said nice guy has a thing for stupid girls...I mean stupid in the sense that they'd rather have the bad boy for whatever reason, maybe because they like the thrill of the chase, or the unpredictability, or because she has a Jesus complex and wants to try to "save" him, or whatever. But that is dumb. Alot of us do it though, due to immaturity, low self-esteem, feeling like we don't deserve a good guy, or lack of positive relationship examples in our lives as we grow up. Sad stories, sure; but it's all baggage and nobody needs it. A truly nice guy deserves a nice girl who has enough self-respect to look for someone who will treat her well, and whom she can treat well in return. As long as you don't turn into one of those "nice guys" who is only ever attracted to girls who don't appreciate them because they like the chase, or because she's hot, you're good. Keep doing what you're doing, honey. A nice guy is sexy as hell.
2007-02-13 14:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by lipsndimples81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't become too predictable or too agreeable.
By "too agreeable", I mean that women seem to disrespect a guy who can never stand up for himself, even when she knows that she is acting badly and walking all over you (she knows when she is doing this). And women seem to hate it when you have no ideas or no opinions of your own, but wait for her to take the initiative (For example: "Where do you want to go tonight? I don't know, where do you want to go? I don't know, you decide. No you decide. No, you!" And so on).
2007-02-13 14:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
real talk if you are seen as a nice guy, consider your self a *** kisser.....now I'm not saying go out and join your local gang and treat a woman bad but what i am saying is do not be a sucker nice people are usually stepped on. Do not be a wuss .....show confidence
2007-02-13 14:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice always pays off, If you are a jerk you dont ever have a a real relationship.
2007-02-13 14:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by tay tay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am still waiting for the payoff. I am one of the nicest a girl could meet. But all i get is kicked around
2007-02-13 14:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like nice guys. There are some girls that prefer them, because they know they'll stick around.
2007-02-13 14:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a nice guy pays off because if you are nice....they will feel very guilty to cheat on you or break uo with you...they won't have a reason to do it. they'll never do it.!!
2007-02-13 14:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋