I have been babysitting another little girl about the same age as my daughter for a year now. Within that year she has bitten her around 4 times, but one was yesterday and another today. Yesterday she drew blood. Its only this other girl that she does this to, and she doesnt do it all the time. Its just when she does do it its really hard. I dont know what to do and if my daughter was getting bit at daycare I would be really pissed. What do I tell the other girls mom so she isnt so angry about it? How do I stop her?
2007-02-13 13:56:27 · 5 answers · asked by wondering_questions 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Please do not bite your daughter back! I can't believe so many suggest injuring a child to teach a lesson! Biting her back will only reinforce the message that biting is okay. "If mom can bite me, I can bite someone." Biting back is a punishment (you controlling her). She needs to be disciplined in order to learn self control. Those of you, who suggest biting back, stop offering such abusive advice and go take some parenting classes!
Take your daughter aside and ask her to let you show her how teeth feel on skin. Press her forearm against her upper teeth as if she were biting herself, not in an angry way, but to make a point. Tell her, "See, biting hurts!" Give this lesson immediately after she bites.
I bet she is feeling jealous of this child. She now has to share you and it is hard for her. When this child is not with you, have some special time with your daughter. Do things together that only you and your daughter do. You can do an art project or she can help you with making snacks or dinner. She will enjoy having special time that she only shares with you.
When she bites the other girl, rush to the “Victim,” pick her up and say “Oh no! That must have hurt! Let’s get some ice to put on your bite.” Ignore your daughter. She won’t like the feeling of being left out. After some time, have that child express her feelings about being bit. “Ouch! That hurt me! I don’t want to play with you if you are going to bite me.” (Depending on her age she may need some support with this). You can also redirect her when she bites. Find something that she can bite. Explain to her that “If you want to bite you can bite this.”
Empathize with her after a biting incident. “I bet you were feeling very (upset, mad, hurt, angry, frustrated) when you bit “Emma.” What can you do next time instead of biting?”
Tell the mother the truth after a biting incident. Just explain that your daughter decided to bite “Emma” because she was feeling upset. Explain to her how you handled the situation. Let her know that you are working with your daughter to express her feeling rather than bite. Children will bite when they are having difficulties expressing their feelings. Hopefully this child’s mother will understand that you are doing your best to remedy this.
Check out the following link. It has a helpful article called "Biting and hitting: 16 ways to stop it" when it comes to children who bite. Hope this helps! http://www.askdrsears.com
2007-02-14 06:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably jealous of the other girl if she is always there. everyone told me to bite the kid back if they bit you i was skeptical about it though. but my sister did do it to her son and he stopped. so its a though call, cause she is biting the other kid and not you. tell the other mom right way cause the mom could press charges on you for child endangerment . its crazy but you do have nutty parents that will do stuff like that. i know its a normal thing in a kids life that sometimes they do bit so sit down with you the other mom and both kids and talk in a way that the kids will understand. that biting really hurts and you dont wanna hurt someone. how old are the kids by the way? try to help them understand about biting and that they would not want the other kid to bite them, good luck.
2007-02-13 18:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by willwork4u2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spank her and give her time out everytime, and if that don't work, bite her.... Not hard, but enough for her to know it hurts... I had to do this with my son.... one time was all it took.... same with pulling hair.... when he would pull hair, I would lightly tug his... and never did that again either..... As fas as telling her mom... Just apologize upfront and let her know that you are working on correcting your daughters behavior, adn tell her how you handle it each time.. she may choose not to bring her daughter around, but that is a chance you'll have to take... Have you ever thought that maybe this other girl bites your daughter when you aren't looking??? Maybe that has something to do with it.... Things like this don't just happen.... someone has to have showed her how to do it..... (or done it to her)..
2007-02-13 16:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i know this sounds bad but the next time she bites take her arm and bite her back not hard but hard enough for her to fill it and realize that it hurts to be bit then tell her thats how it feels when she bits someone maybe that will work for you
2007-02-14 08:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by maple7586 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick them in a ring and let them go three rounds. Wait that only works for boys.
2007-02-13 17:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Randall A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋