I have had a hard time early on in the semester. I attend a community college. I was ill for the first time in years a few weeks after the semester started and missed a few classes. Then last week I had my wisdom teeth extracted and the pain has been horrible. I missed last Friday, Monday, and am planning on staying home tomorrow. It's not that I'm making something out of nothing, I am in constant pain! Furthermore, my dad died several months ago and I've been depressed. I can't seem to buckle down and stick with school. The thing is, I'm feeling really guilty about missing these classes. I've sent my professors emails explaining the situation and will show them documentation of the surgery, but I feel really worried. Is it wrong of me to take tomorrow off? If I do go, I'll be in pain all day.
2007-02-13 13:53:13 · 9 answers · asked by OctoberGirl 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
I remember when I had my wisdom teeth extracted--ug! Then I went on to work after the weekend. I got dry socket and thought it was horrible--maybe you could get that checked out! Take something for the pain. But I think you probably already know, loosing your father is more of problem for you than you want to admit. Grieving is an awfully painful process, you suck it up and somehow move on. I know about that too. But sometimes when we need help to keep us going and we start loosing the battle and stop doing the things that keep us at home, well, maybe we need to see someone for that pain too. Being a little depressed is okay, but if it starts to interfer with your daily life, then maybe you might want to talk to someone. Missing classes when you might not otherwise have missed, not able to buckle down?, not quite yourself, you seem a little overwhelmed. Simply not wanting to feel the pain anymore is okay too, maybe you could talk to someone? I don't think is't wrong to take the day off, but I would like to know that you are talking to someone about this, professionally? God be with you--you sound very sweet!
2007-02-13 14:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Itsallgood! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say in answer to your question.. yes, I think you are missing too much school. But, perhaps, with good reason. However, college isn't about having bad luck & getting pity grades. It seems you're making a choice about not going... coming up with many reasons to not go. The advice above about calling this semester a "do-over" is realistic.
Dealing with the deal of a parent is very difficult.. I've lost both of mine. You are entitled to take some down time & lick your wounds. You might even see if the college offers any free counselling to help you deal with everything you've been going through.
Call your dentist.. and see if your extraction is proceeding as it should. It seems a week later is a bit long to still be in pain. Perhaps dry socket? Check into it.
Life will get better... keep in touch with your professors..and hopefully you will be strong enough next semester. Good luck
2007-02-13 22:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Cambria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have understanding professors you should be okay and hopefully they will help catch you up. ( I just joined a German class a month into school and am finally caught up) You really do need to sit down and decide if you want to continue the semester or if issues in your life are too overwhelming. If you are too overwhelmed, you can got to the board of director's at your school and explain that you are depressed. Colleges are very aware and concerned about the issue of depression among college students. If approved you could recieve back the money that you paid for the semester. I wish you luck and happiness :)
2007-02-13 22:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by kiti kiti kiti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that makes college different from high school is that you're the captain of your own ship. If you don't go, you'll receive consequences. They are natural consequences. If the classes have value to you, you will be missing out on that value. If you need to take some time off from school, do it. Just check with the guidance office about the procedures for re-enrolling.
2007-02-13 21:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Pi-Guy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The real underlying issue is that you don't WANT to go to school! Were you doing badly? And maybe now you've lost your drive & motivation? You might want to consider taking an INCOMPLETE or you will end up with failing grades. You are missing important lectures, explanations, and interactions with others in the class. Suck it up - you won't even feel your tooth once you dig into your work.
2007-02-13 22:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you may want to just call this semester a bust, get your life back on track, and start over again once you are mentally and physically ready. You're not doing yourself any good by paying for classes that you're not attending.
Hope you feel better! Good luck!
2007-02-13 21:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jellybino 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have answered your own question. If you're guilty then you feel like you can and should be going. Besides, don't they give you pain killers? and wouldn't you be in pain sitting at home and watching TV? If you are going to skip school continously like this, there are usually kids on waiting lists that would be all to happy to fill your place.
2007-02-13 22:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by kaqu007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No dont worry it's not your fault. Im sure you professors will understand. good luck and sorry about your dad.
PS you might wanna talk to a guidance councilor
2007-02-13 21:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by DancingQueen5 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you want to drop out of School.
2007-02-13 21:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by tfoley5000 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋