Me and my gf have been talking about moving in together for a few months. We have been together for 8 months. She has $60,000 in debt. She also has a freeloading brother that has to stay with us(he is 23 and works but does not give $$). She is working hard at 2 jobs to keep herself afloat. I love her but all that plus her chaotic schedule and stressed attitude is not something I like. I have expressed my concerns to her but she blows them off. Now her lease is expiring in a couple of months and she is expecting me to move in to help with the bills. I told her I do not think I can do it after all and she got very upset. Any Adviice? Thanks for your responses.
2007-02-13 13:43:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girlfriend is the type of girl that will always have money issues, my advice to you is to think about your financial being and emmotional being, before deciding something you might regret. And it already seems that you're pretty much not going to accept the idea of moving in together. Maybe you can help her out by finding a cheaper rent for her somewhere else, jus tlet her know that you already have a lot of financial stress, and don't want her to suffer even more. Reassure her that once you guys can both be steady with your accounts, then you can find a confortable home together. I'm sure she'll understand.
2007-02-13 13:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that that's extremely responsible for you to be worried about her debts and way of lifestyles. I easily have debts and recognize the way it feels, inspite of if that's no longer that undesirable. i imagine that you're doing the right ingredient by technique of telling her no. She desires to get her lifestyles way at the same time and that could want to favor to have no longer something to do with you shifting in. in case you do pass in w/ her it might want to help her out a lot, yet then you will have the tension of her being below pressure each and every of the time. i be counted on case you do no longer make the comittment of shifting in w/ her she might want to experience that you at the on the spot are not waiting for a relationship and opt to go away you. How do you experience about that?
2016-11-03 09:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if you marrie her it become's your debt.don't do it its not worth being the knight in shinning armor. don't do it what ever you do. dump her now before its to late.
2007-02-13 13:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you either dont think you can do it , or plain just dont WANT to do it...by god DONT DO IT!!!!
2007-02-13 13:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya do what your conscience tells you!
2007-02-13 13:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by tiffers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋