I have my husband with 2 sons, but I feel unhappiness because I found I was in fact a lesbian after I lived with my husband for 4 years . To find my true love, I join one great lesbian dating club(http://www.ldate.com/i/b)...... and incredible that I found my soul mate about one month later. She also love me very much. We had a great online chat and I could not wait to have a chat with her face to face. After having a face to face chat with her, she said she could not live without me, she wanted me to marry her asap. I also would like to marry her, but should I desert my husband and two sons? Please tell me how to deal with the problem, I am really in a bad mood and do not know how to do.
2007-02-13 13:39:55 · 17 answers · asked by Lisa B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-02-13 13:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by sophia 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you really are a lesbian, then the sooner you come out and be honest with yourself and your family, the happier you will be. In regards to your children, stress your love for them and let them know that it doesn't change how you feel about them, and you hope that it won't change the way they feel about you. It's important to let them know that they will still be the most important people in your life, and that you won't stop being their mother. As for husband, reassure him that he was not incompetent at all, that this decision had to do with you, and nothing at all to do with him. I don't know where you live, but in our state, same sex marriages aren't allowed. Some gays have commitment ceremonies though. If this is your first lesbian relationship, proceed with caution, and make sure you that this is what you really want. If it doesn't work out, you will have to be prepared to deal with it. Best of luck....
2007-02-13 21:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to love,we all want different kind.Some wants the real Mccoy, some wants not the real Mccoy, if you are in a bad mood,then you are not good for your family,follow what makes you happy. Your husband and 2 sons will survive. I hope you will have a good relationship with your 2 sons. Good luck ,I wish you happiness.
2007-02-13 21:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and your family a favor. Come out of the closet and be yourself. My husband's ex wife is a lesbian and she goes through men like kleenex. .She's afraid of what others will say. If she would just get over herself and realize that no one really gives a darn, she'd be much happier,as would the men she fakes it with.
2007-02-13 21:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage after a month ? OMG! What are you thinking? Would you consider some advice? BREATHE IN BREATHE OUT! Do this consistently and maybe you will find the answer you need to hear instead of what you want.
2007-02-13 22:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by buckcreekb2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, thats y people should not be online dating but you are just going to mess up an MARRIED relationship because of and online dating site i think that is kind of ridiculous
2007-02-13 21:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got attention seeking behavior. You're a wife and mother for God's sake....stop talking this craziness. You are about to damage your kids' lives forever. Marriage is between a man and a woman. PERIOD.
2007-02-13 23:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god; what a world to live in what a life;always think about your sons and their futures your decision will have a great impact on their lives im not worried about your husband he can live and survive on his own ways just the KIDS........
2007-02-13 21:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We here on Yahoo cannot make important and life altering decisions for others. YOU have to make these decisions yourself. These decisions affect not only you but your children and husband, as well. You are an adult. Act like one and think this through for YOURSELF!
2007-02-13 21:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
To thine ownself, be true. Good Luck! Remember, though. There are Children invovled.
2007-02-13 21:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get divorced and then date her long enough to see if she is the one you want as a life partner.; then make a good decision as this involves the kids as well as you
2007-02-13 21:44:03 · answer #11 · answered by Nora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋