There's a guy I've known for over 10 years off and on. The last several months we've gotten to be very close friends, and he's gotten to know my husband and children as well.
The other day he took me to a furniture store in his truck to pick something up. My husband was working so my niece babysat. When we got back, I took my niece home and he stayed with the kids while I was gone (15 minutes tops).
Today I got a call from my mother lecturing me cause I left the kids with him for a few minutes, and how I don't know him well enough to trust him.... when the fact is,... its HER that doesn't know him. She implied that I'm negligent and incompetent as a parent, that I put my children in danger,... she yelled and argued.... and when I argued back, she hung up on me.
Am I wrong to be angry that my own mother thinks I'm a negligent and incompetent parent when everything I've ever done proves otherwise? And how do I forgive that kind of insult, especially from my own mother?
2007-02-13
13:31:06
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just_me3575
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I said off and on for 10 years....but I didn't say casually. We were quite close several years ago, its just that I hadn't seen him in a while. I'm a good judge of character, always have been, so having spent alot of time with him in the last 6 months and observing how he is with my children,.... I have to disagree with you. People leave their children with daycare providers they've never met every day. And the fact that SHE doesn't know him or spend time with him does not mean he's a danger to my children. And thats her issue.... she can't control it.
2007-02-13
13:43:26 ·
update #1
Millie, you sound like my mother. You wouldn't leave your children with a close family friend just because he happens to be male... no matter how long you've known him or how trustworthy he's always been? Thats one of the problems I have with this whole issue. Put the insinuations that I'm incompetent aside,...to distrust someone and actually expect the worst just because he's man.... there's something wrong with that way of thinking. There are alot of great guys out there that just plain like kids.... in a very wholesome and innocent way. I'm cautious, particular...and extremely over protective with my children. He's only the 2nd non-family member I've trusted enough to take care of them.... and my oldest is 12. Even still, it was only once, and only for a few minutes. I just can't be that cynical and won't prejudge on a basis of gender alone. Its wrong.
2007-02-13
14:21:23 ·
update #2