OK so I am really struggling with the fact that I have some instinct that my boyfriend (dating a little more than a year)may be cheating on me. I have read all the websites about cheating and he does not fit any of the criteria. We still spend a lot of time together, he is sexually interested and still very complimentary and insistent on spending time with me. A few weeks ago I found that he had a reservation at an exclusive restauarant and asked him about it he was like oh that was for you and I and now you have ruined the surprise. Now when I ask him about if we are going next week he kind of kids with me and is like well maybe.... HMM I think that his kind of wierd. Other than that I can't think of anything else except for my gut. I do have trust issues from the past but people do always say to go with your gut.
2007-02-13 13:28:59 · 10 answers · asked by over the moon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you ever consider the fact it might have been a surprise for you and you blew it? Not everyone is a cheater or a liar. You have issues with your past, deal with those. Don't drag that into this relationship. Your going to ruin this one.
2007-02-13 13:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my philosophy is always to go with my gut, but with this situation, it sounds a little different...
I think your guy is being genuine. First off, even though websites really aren't the best things to go by, he didn't fit any of their criteria for a cheating significant other, right? You also say he's still sexually interested and stays complimentary, also insists that you two spend time. I've had cheating men before, and they DID NOT want to hang out, never said anything nice, and definitely were still not sexually interested. Also, my current guy always says things like, "O, I don't know!" If I find something out on purpose...he's just like that. Honey, I honestly think you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Best of luck! <3
2007-02-13 21:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS go with your stomach...if it's a matter of past trust issues he will show you over time that he is not cheating. It's hard to guess on here, we don't know anything about him or about you.
2007-02-13 21:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ALWAYS say go with your gut.
But you're off your rocker with this one. If my guy treated me the way yours does, I'd be writing a book about him, not worrying about him on Yahoo Answers.
2007-02-13 21:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would suggest that you do, is take a breather from your relationship. Give it time to calm down. If he is doing something else? He won't bug you to stay. But if he's being honest? He'll beg you to fix whatever is broken. Respect him. But respect yourself, also!
2007-02-13 21:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well either you have to follow him or trust him. it sounds like he is trying to surprise you and you ruin it by your nosiness
2007-02-13 21:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by iseemen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hire a private eye lol
2007-02-13 21:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jewellz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean gosh who wouldn't cheat on you
2007-02-13 21:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by La La 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
sorry,but it looks like,but to be sure just talk to him!!!!
2007-02-13 21:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by RF 7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably is.
2007-02-13 21:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋