Why do people feel that they have to cheat?

Answer 1

A lot of people want to keep the cake AND eat it.
But even though you might think you got everything you wanted, you can't get away from the law of the cosmos: You get something, you have to give something.
So the person may have two or more partner, but in one way or another he/ she had to pay for it. I think most of the time it's honesty you loose, because you have to lie and sneak around.

Answer 2

I think that the reason that more and more people are cheating now a days is because of the way the past few generations have been raised. For the most part, society has become more and more commercialized and everyone spoils their children into having whatever they want whenever they want. People want an easy way out now a days. Instead of taking the hard route and talking through issues or trying to improve their relations, they find someone else who can instantly gratify their sexual needs.

Also, it seems like more and more people are cheating because the media puts it out there, and people feel less ashamed then they would have back in the days of the Scarlet Letter.

But not everyone is like this of course. There are many faithful, happy couples. But you don't hear about this as much because it's the norm.

On the note of healthy relationships, Happy Valentine's Day!

Answer 3

Guys and girls have been made to be attracted to each other biologically speaking. Attraction happens but acting on it....a different matter. Cheating doesn't just happen. It's a choice I think. Plus, people have different definitions of cheating so that has to be considered too. Different things could make people cheat. There are some truly honorable people who would never cheat though. There are some, who might cheat out of defiance, out of frustration, out of loneliness, maybe lingering anger for their partner, maybe their partner doesn't give them love and attention or doesn't listen to them. I think impulsive people are more likely to cheat. They like immediate satisfaction. And then there are guys who are simply not marriage material. They cannot be committed to just one. They want a marriage, but feel they hv the right to cheat as well. So it all depends. It's simply not right to run away from problems in a relationship by cheating. It's a really very damaging thing to do.

Answer 4

Most people are very insecure inside and it gives them a feeling of constant reassurance that they are attractive. With this style of life they always have a fall back to lean on if no one else is around. Then there are the few that just don't care who they hurt as long as they get their fix of attention. Kind of a power control thing. Look up different kind of disabilities -- starting with narcissism. There is a book out called "Women who love too much" It could help men too because women do it too. I sure hope this helps. Also, if the person cheats they will never change. I know! God can help them change but you'll have to learn to accept the person as they are and love them in spite of their problems. I've found that with my ex cheated on me over and over but I had a problem too. I spent money to compensate for my low self esteem. We were not willing to accept each others faults even tho we loved each other. It has been hell for 15 years. I'm now single and been that way for about 3 years. I've dated but no serious ones. Until I get better and able to stand alone, I can't be good for anyone else. Good Luck

Answer 5

People I think that cheat, do so for many different reasons all which are justified in their own minds as to why they did and why its ok. Some do cause no matter what they dont want to stay with one person. But I personally think it boils down to being weak. Most of us are tempted at one point or another. The stronger ones say is my relationship worth losing over a one night stand. We are the ones that turn down the temptation and go home to are lovers and proceed with our lives the weaker ones who tend to be selfish too just take the temptation and run with it not thinking of the aftermath and just thinking of the current moment.

My husband and I vowed that if we ever started to consider the possiblity of being with another that we would have the respect for one another to let the other go before something ever happen. We have been together now almost 10 years and very much in love.

Answer 6

You can't generalise a question like this. Ask ten people who've cheated on someone for their reasons, you're not likely to get the same answer from each of them.

It could be a number of things, a few being:

They feel they're missing something in their current relationship.

They feel they aren't getting enough attention from their partner, therefore go to find it somewhere else.

Maybe they don't feel their relationship is a serious one?

They feel bored, or get bored with being with the same person, in the same routine for so long.

They feel bad about themselves, and knowing theyre wanted by more than one person, makes them feel better.

They could be drunk, foolish.

Their partner might have done so once, and they think it's okay to do it back.

They might have bad experiences from the past that may slightly influence their future actions..

There could be a million reasons.

Answer 7

They are cowards about ending the relationship.

In my opinion, they only cheat until they find the right person. Because then they no longer have a reason to cheat. I am in no way saying cheating is right. I think it's immature and an awful thing to do to your spouse. But I think that's their way of getting what they want. Other people break up or face the music, while these people just cheat instead.

I hope I never get cheated on. I'd break his dick in half.

Answer 8

I have been cheated on...more than one time.
I honestly think that deep down they feel that they don't deserve anything good in their lives, and are unconsciencly trying to prove that to themselves, self destructive..also leave him/er before they leave me...or sometimes think that they are so into themselves that they don't care about anyone else or their feelings (no matter what they say!)
Although, I would never give any of them even one hinder of understanding...if someone is not happy in the relationship they need to leave....before they cheat!!!

Answer 9

Wanna relive glory days or need to feel desired by more than one person -ego stroking? ???? Have to get an honest answer from a cheat. honesty+cheater= (doesn't add up most times)
maybe they are soo awesome in the sack & need to show off & need more than one person to know & talk about how great they are???? :O
It's also blindness because alot of people feel that need to be close to more than one person. So this would be personally attacking alot of people when I think it's just so common sometimes people just get caught up in temptations & doing what others do.... ? Some temptations are harder to resist than others for some people & I believe some may feel bad they got caught up in it but strong lusts got the better of them. Plus if the temptation is really easy.... Then some that are tempting or giving others that chance may not have anyone & they are lonely & wanna satisfy something they've been wanting... who knows. Best is just to try to encourage others to try to learn how to resist those terrible temptations that they are weak at. People grow at different times & it's better late than never.
Or they cheat until they can't play the field anymore. And if their spouse has suspected or knows that they've cheated then they may get grief over it & decide they have to be with the person they cheated with cuz they lost that love & respect from the person they cheated. They want the one way street, they want love & respect even though they don't give it. So if they are a player at heart & desire & have wandering eyes & hands & their spouse finds out & they loose some of that love & respect then they're sad & need to move on. Sometimes they are impatient to earn that love & respect back so they're just lazy & move on. Can't handle having all that they want all the time.
Actually, I worked with a bunch of guys before & I overheard them talking about stuff. One guy said there's nothing better than that hot pig s-e-x. Another guy I knew was saying that it's the excitement of running around. I bet if they married those cheaters that snuck around with them for so long, it wouldn't have the edge it use to have cuz there's something about the excitement they get from the sneaking around & lovin & leavin, even if it is a long-term affair with one person. Mr Bill had some long-term relationships but since his wife was soo loving & forgiving & didn't give him too much grief & possibley some loss of love & respect he stayed with her. I've seen her look at him lovingly still which is what guys desire. & you know what a hound dog show off he was & how many people knew he was $crewing around being disrespectul to his wife (that some people were probably happy about & snickered cuz they didn't like her anyway.) See how he will now talk about those women he use to woo, buy expensive gifts, send loving letters & all that. (But that may possibley be for his wife's benefit cuz it's in his best interest of his family to grow up & make it work. Learn how to honor his vows even if his heart isn't into to it at the time.) If his wife was withholding some love & respect from him he may not have been able to cope, found another gal to cheat with & tell her she was the one & leave for her cuz he needed someone who still thought he was all that.

Answer 10

I don't really know. What makes people cheat?

maybe because...

they're bored
they're not secure with themselves
they don't communicate their concerns with their partners enough
it's exciting so for cheaters it is rewarding
they had "cheater models" while growing up (parents, uncles)
they think it's okay because media makes it okay
they feel empty

i don't know but all I know is you can never blame your partner for cheating on him/her!