IM 13!!! im gonna have the worst valentines day ever!!!?

Question

ok i have a girlfriend right...we are like really close to each other and like we pick on each other and say stuff mean to each other and we have fun doing those things....i have been going out with her for 9 months abd im like in love with her...n e ways my problem with her is that 1 day she went to the mall to buy me a valentines present and she met this boy there and SHE GAVE HIM HER NUMBER!!!..so like she talks to him and txts him more then she talks to me..and she talks about him ever freakin time we talk and i feel that shes cheating on me...k this is wat i heard..that she told him THAT SHE LOVED HIM AND THE SHE TOLD HIM THAT HE'S hot!!...and that just made me sad and i THINK i dont have feelings for her no more!!!...so how do i tell her how i feel about that boy and her,and should i stop loving her or do i?!??!?!plz help

Answer 1

well then her love was conditional not the type that would stay with someone

Answer 2

Not all rumors are true, you need to get the facts is it true or is it just what you [heard] Cough cough!!! Serieously you deserve to know the truth. If what you're saying is true move on sweetie!!! Nine months or however how long doesn't make a difference it's about how you feel and why you're with them! I might be young and in high school,but I've been through a lot with relationships and if it's too much trouble it's just not worth getting into. My very first real boyfriend lied to me, then I was forced to clean his house for the first five months we went out by his mom, then it was oh I starred at this girl baby is that okay? Then he cheated on me and then that's when all H - E - double hockey sticks broke loose. Find someone whose worth your time and not someone whose a tease. I found someone else though and we're really happy. You don't have to be sad tomorrow you can flirt with who ever you want tomorrow if you are single. Besides you're really young your whole life shouldn't be devoted to one person whether you're in middle school or high school. Have fun tomorrow and don't let some loser girl get in the way of it...

Answer 3

This should tell you that she didn't have any feelings for you at all. I think you should just move on and just have friends, rather than a girlfriend. Wait until you are old enough, right now it is just infatuation you are dealing with. Besides, you two were really acting like friends because you pick on each other, say mean stuff to each other, but that's not what a real relationship does. A real relationship is being nice and polite, with kind words to each other and also with respect for each others feelings too.

This girl doesn't care about your feelings, if she did, she wouldn't behave like that. Just remain friends with her and nothing more.

Or, talk to your parents about love problems. They are your parents and you should be able to talk to them about stuff like this.

Answer 4

Calm down, sweetie, u're only 13!! U'll be "in love" many, many times, before the right 1 comes along. I know u think u love her, but in a few wks or mons., u'll wonder what u ever saw in her. DON'T believe everything u hear, either, ask her if she said what u heard. Yes, u should tell her how u feel about the other boy, & see what she has to say. Don't take anything for granted, talk to her, calmly. Good Luck!

Answer 5

hey your 13 . yes thats a big deal. you need not have any consern about how one girl or another . at 13 all kids go through one hook up after another. that is life. look at it this way some of the boys you age who are just as cool as you didnt even get to have a girlfriend at all yet . so on valentines day do something nice for your mom . yip thats right for your mom. give her some flowers. for one thing it shows you are growing up and its really nice . in addtion hang out with your friends and have whatever fun there is to have regardless of what day it is.
unless you have an accident or some terrible illness you will have a great many more v days to get wound up about and you know what you most likely will forget one or two that really matter. so mark it on your caledar for the next 80 years.

Answer 6

Relax. Just kindly ask her to come over and talk to you. Talk to her in a quiet place and a place where you guise'll be alone. Tell her how you feel, and if she gets just stay calm and wait for her to calm down and resume the conversation. BUT i doubt that she'll get really mad... she'll probably be glad that you were honest and shared your feelings with her. BE HONEST ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL! tell her what you heard from that one person and how it made you feel. Do this on V-day and buy her a rose! or chocolates. GOOD LUCK! I'm sure you'll do fine!


EDIT! Whatever you do, don't ignore the situation... that'll only cause more problems. tell her how you feel... she'll be glad that you were honest with her. If she still likes you then she'll stop the chatting with this other guy right away.

Answer 7

The worst thing you could do is act like it bothers you. You don't ever stand a chance with her if you get all emotional about it. My recommendation is tell her you don't have the time to waste on someone who runs around with other guys. Say it like you really don't care and then don't call her for a couple of weeks. You can still say hi at school or wherever you see here but you must play it very cool, like you could care less. If you do this for a week or two she will be calling you non stop.

Answer 8

first of all you are to young to be sooo serious about one girl, secondly, if you have a problem with her and this other guy you should tell her now. don't go on hearsay, ask her if she likes him and if she says yes then let her know that you do not want to share her and that maybe it is best that she and you remain friends only. nothing is worth jeopardizing a friendship over. and just because you become friends does not mean that she cannot be your valentine. if she doesn't like this boy in that way maybe you too should discuss what you expect out of this relationship as far as talking to the opposite sex and things of that nature.

Answer 9

For one, honey, when you really love someone you can't just stop. I'm not so sure if you know what love is yet. It sounds like she is not ready for a relationship because of the commitment. If she gives out her number to any other guy she thinks is hot, that is not respectful toward you and she's not ready to be a girlfriend. I can't tell you what to do, but I believe she will only cause you trouble.

Answer 10

That sucks so much...definately end things!!! omg, thats horrible if shes saying stuff like that to him, I think first you should ask her if she said all of that, if for nothing but closure, but if she talks to him more than you then obviously something is wrong. If she can do that to you she doesn't appreicate you and you deserve better than that. If you don't feel anything for her anymore thats yet another reason to end it. Just say something like: I am not happy with the way things are right now. Ask her what she feels about him and then tell her what your feeling...do you feel like she cares, that your important? special? exactly what you think. Tell her if she has those feelings for another guy then she should be dating him. she wouldn't show such disregard for you if she cared, I honestly am astonished she would actually do that with no shame so make sure you have all of your facts straight

Answer 11

you are 13. You will have many more valentines days, it''s not the end of the world. Talk to another girl you know. You will have many more girlfriends. Don't let this get you down too much, it's OK to feel hurt or disappointment, but then move on and don't dwell on it.