My boyfired and I have been friends for years. We have been best friends since his ex cheated and broke his heart. We are involved now and because of both of our pasts we are taking things slowly. He is in the military and is away. Before he left, she tracked him down and wanted to know why he wasn't calling and e mailing her. He told her because it bothered his girlfriend. Her comment before she got in her car was "call me this weekend and we will grab a bite to eat" Later that evening he got a text message from her saying "I'm gonna remember you, you gonna remember me" As far as I know she does not know that it is me. She has never liked me, and for personal reasons we are waiting a while to tell her. I feel like she did not respect her marriage and cheated and now she is trying to disrespect our relationship. I just don't know what to do. I would love some sound advice. I love this man with all my heart and I don't want conflict in our relationship.
2007-02-13 12:48:59 · 7 answers · asked by Broken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, he can change is phone number. Secondly, she is playing head games with him. It's not about you, she is hoping to still have "power" over him, regardless of who he is seeing. He has to stand up to her, or completely cut off all communication.
You just need to be sweet to your man and be supportive of him, no matter what she does.
It's a simple case of she doesn't want him - but she doesn't him him to have anyone else either.
Good Luck!
2007-02-13 12:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point you just need to stand back and let him handle it. Apparently she is not listening to him at all, if she still wanted to get together b4 he left. He is going to have to tell her that it is over, and he wants no more to do with her. He will need to change his cell number, phone number and things such as that, especially if she refuses to take no for an answer. Honestly I think that she treats all men like toys, she just wants someone to fall back on when her other guys don't work out, and unfortunately your BF is the "fall back guy". I think that she is not serious, and she may even know all about you, and that was why she was doing the things she was doing. At least he left soon after the incident and he has time to think it all through, and with luck the other guys with him will tell him that she is just playing with him. I wish the 2 of you luck, and I hope he returns safely.
2007-02-13 21:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man needs to be the one to put her in her place. Do they have children together? If not, why is he still talking to her? If it's over then your guy needs to tell her to go away.
2007-02-13 20:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be honest with him about your feelings and concerns. You have no control over her thoughts or actions, just your own. If her messages remain unanswered, she will get bored and move on. Also, he needs to stop all contact with her. She's bad news.
2007-02-13 20:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow are they divorced yet? If not you probably have a fight ahead of you. If you love him and he loves you then stick by him she will probably get worse before she leaves you both alone oh and she will probably say she is pregnant also
2007-02-13 20:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much drama.
2007-02-13 20:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by orderly logic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-02-13 20:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋