To make a long story short my uncle molested me when I was like 7 and I told my aunt and she told me not to tell anyone because he would go to jail. Now many years have past he is dead, but not my aunt and I can't stand being around her!!!! My family knows about it and are not very supportive, and can't understand why I don't like her. They try to push me to be around her, except my mom she's not like that. But this is the only way I can really get my feelings out, I am seeing a therapist. Is there something wrong with me, that I don't want to be around my aunt? because they make me feel like it is me with the problem, i just don't know anymore, and it is really bothering me.
2007-02-13 12:38:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, so you are being responsible and seeing a therapist who will likely help you get your feelings out and honored. When THAT work is seeming real, the next thing you will want to look at is (yes) forgiveness. There is no one that will be hurt by your festering anger and resentment toward your aunt. She was WRONG. She may or may not ever admit that, but you will need to go on with your life and not let her poor decision made from fear and selfishness wreak havoc with your peace of mind.
You might want to consider working on a speech or letter with your therapist where you let your aunt know the impact that her decision years ago has had on you. And THEN you need to let yourself feel the release. Yes, it would be great if she had the greatness to then ASK you to forgive her, but if you really want to heal from these tragic deeds, you will need to forgive her.]
BTW: you can do similar work around the dead uncle with a letter and burning of it, etc., or a visit to his grave site. RELEASE it from your body. You are awesome. Hang in there
2007-02-13 12:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by mountain woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you. family is the most understanding people. But, at the same time they are the most dreadfully people also. Your Aunt should of put her feeling aside an done something about it but she was thinking about losing her husband. So many people do this to kids trying to keep something they call a good thing to gather. The feelings you have will never leave you. You have to put the anger behind you. I be live a person can over come anything MAN put in there way. You just have to be there for that CHILD who might need you. Don't be like your Aunt. This is how you beat this.
2007-02-13 13:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by johnjohn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a really good reason to not like to be around your aunt (I would feel the same, so would many others.) If you don't like your family much I would probably tell a police officer about it. It would create some short-term stress, but in the long run you'll feel better that some justice has been served and get some worries off your back.
2007-02-13 12:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by transfusionsb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, it is NOT your fault. I can't wait until you get out one day when you are older. Your aunt handled the situation so stupidly about him (going to jail). Anyways, do your parents know about the molest? The therapist? Tell somebody other than your aunt! Best wishes! Sorry =(
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2016-10-17 06:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, im so sry 4 u and am disgusted that ur aunt would act that way. have you told anyone in your family the whole story? if so, that is terrible of them to make you be around her. if not, tell one of them and hopefully they will finally understand.
2007-02-13 12:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by tanvismo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course there is nothing wrong with you!!! u need to explain to your family or therapists why u feel that way towards your aunt because she gave u wrong advice
good luck!
2007-02-13 12:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There ant anything wrong with u.There is sumthing wrong with ur aunt and she's the one that needs medical help.U need sum suport and don't need anyone to start bugging u about being around her.
2007-02-13 12:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say how old you are now and it does not matter. When the pressure comes up say you are not comfortable being around someone who enabled you being molested. If there is a problem it's not yours.
2007-02-13 12:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your family is manipulating you and are pretending it didn't happen. Thye should be the ones in therapy and the nut house.You are doing what you should to deal with it, but you should distance yourself from your heartless family.
2007-02-13 12:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋