He wants to dress and act like a gang member and I am scared. How do I steer him away from this? We live in a full size house and safe nieborhood and he gets mostly anything he needs or wants. Financially we are stable.
2007-02-13 12:25:49 · 13 answers · asked by mistyhayze 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't let him play with toy guns but he gets them somehow and I keep taking them away. His father live in downtown windsor boarder of detroit. My son has bin there many times so he that is where he gets most of his ideas. He has no fear.
2007-02-13 12:46:00 · update #1
He is on meds
2007-02-13 12:47:37 · update #2
I have bi-polar
2007-02-13 13:14:14 · update #3
I have gone to C.A.S for help at one point I felt I could not do it anymore and told them to take him away but we worked together and I was able to pull myself together again, they say I am doing a great job to keep doing what I am doing. But, I know there is something else I can do I just haven't found it yet.
I have had him in many types of counselling and therapy.
Depending on the season I have him in swimming, baseball, scouts, choir, and he is doing his comfermation now for the next 2 yrs. I take him to Sunday school and we go to church almost every Sunday.
2007-02-15 12:24:43 · update #4
I try to get what he wants because if not he will steal it and then there is more problems. So I just try to elimanate that stress.
2007-02-15 12:31:13 · update #5
to be quite honest with you, you sound like a lovely mum who is doing everything she can to protect and bring up your son against all the odds. i take my hat off to you.
2007-02-20 10:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by sue brew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how do you cope - you must be a super parent?! This is a seriously challenging combination of dififculties, and I can't imagine anyone coping with it without professional help. I would really consider counselling/support from a specialist. I also doubt you have gotten real help yet, because him getting almost anything he wants is certainly not going to help, it will make things a lot worse. You probably need a highly structured environment for him with strict routine and planned activities. Consider getting help from a professional child and youth care worker - they are quite specialised with the activity planning side of things - in addition to a therapist. Good luck.
2007-02-15 01:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him something to get his attention away from his new fantasy. . And maybe show him something new that would really grab his attention. Hmm... lets see... new toys. And for a while take away everything that gets him started about being a gang member. But make sure you take those away when he's not watching or else he'll probably get angry.
I love the fact that unlike alot of people in the world, you care so much about your child
2007-02-13 12:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by Min 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is selfish and insensitive knowing that your son has a medical condition and still treating him the way he does.And your son can tell that your boyfriend is not understanding of him.That's why he doesn't want to come home and why is acting the way he is now.Anyway your child comes before anybody are anything.So my advice is to continue getting your son the help he needs.And to move your boyfriend out and get your son back home.And if his attitude toward your son is that bad then you should leave him for good.Good luck to you and your son.
2016-05-24 07:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am an adult with two children of my own and i have adhd the best thing to is to try and understand it because its not a nice thing to go through it may seem like he is just a pain but its not there is reasons for his actions. i found being on meds worse for me. knowing how adhd works and strategys can really help. its no nice to live with and its not at all his fault.
2007-02-13 12:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by billabong3@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have his meds re-evaluated and go to therapy. Sometimes the wrong combination of meds causes the person to have exaggerated symptoms.
2007-02-19 06:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by a_k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u need to do is go for behavioral therapy and do not go for seasonal activities go for long term activity very Ur kid is interested, and please do not encourage his stealing habit ,it is not only going set habit but psychologically make him feel that he can get what ever he wants
As a student of psychology and working with children on same line i advice u
2007-02-20 07:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by msk6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smack him across the face and call him a lil b1tch then let him go to school in south central LA and your son should be dead within the first day
2007-02-19 01:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by gayguy187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be the people who he hangs out with that might be like that..there is a saying "tell me who u hang out with and ill tell u what u r" just try to talk him out of doing it and maybe dress like a regular boy
2007-02-13 13:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ariana L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give him what he wants then he will grow up to be a spoiled mamas boy and take hime to the getto let him get shot 9 times in the ear and see if he wants t be a BLOOD
2007-02-13 12:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋