There is a kid that has behavioral problems in my 4yo's daycare class. They try to get my son to 'use his words' but this doesn't work on this kid. Today my son came home with both of his cheeks scratched.
What do I tell my son to do about the kid?
Thanks,
Lisa
2007-02-13 12:17:10 · 14 answers · asked by lvaagen 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Tell the day care providers. If they don't stop the problem find a different daycare.
2007-02-13 12:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not the little boy's fault but I know that that doesn't really solve your problem. It's not the kid's fault he has special needs but it's not your son's fault he got scratched. Who IS at fault is the carers. Did they record the incident in the log book? Find out because if they haven't that would lead me to believe they're being lax and not doing their jobs properly. Tell your son if there's another incident to tell one of the carers. If things don't improve then find another daycare for him. You need to beable to relax when he's at daycare and be sure he's being well looked after not worry about what state he'll be coming home in next time. Have a chat with them yourself and tell them you're not happy and ask if it's been logged. Good luck xx
2007-02-13 12:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the director of the day care. The special needs child should acutally be on one-on-one care with a daycare provider.Take pictures of your son's scratches and show them to both the director and the parents. If the can not prevent this child from injuring your son,find a new day care.
2007-02-13 12:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid your son can't do much to solve this situation. If he reacts, in a manor which the other kid would understand, he would be punished by the carers.....Have you spoken to the carers personally? Have you made the point clear that you don't tolerate your son being a victim of those scratch-attacks?
Meanwhile you could tell your son, that this kid didn't mean it intentionally but obviously cannot express his anger in another way....
Talk to other parents, maybe their kids have also been " victims" of the "scratcher"....
If nothing works talk to the principal and see what he/she says or take him out of there.
2007-02-14 00:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering the fact that they are young children and the boy has special needs and probably does know better. I would definately take it up with the child care workers, they should be doing a better job to protect your child from injuries, If that does not work look into other daycares. ..Good Luck!
2007-02-13 12:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess if it were me I'd go to the school and tell them I am upset that my child is coming home scratched up. Let them know that you understand that the child has special needs but you expect them to watch more closely and stop and more instances of this type. If the child has violent tendencies they need to isolate the child from the other until the child understand we do not allow this kind of behavior. I also do not understand how your child using his words is going to stop this kind of thing.
2007-02-13 12:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day care providers NEED to discuss the problem with the parents of this other child. Special needs does not mean being allowed to abuse other children and your so is being abused. I suggest talking to the director of the day care facility. It is one thing to be tolerant of a special needs child but tolerating abuse from a special needs child should NOT be allowed. If the child's parent's are going to "mainstream" their child the child HAS to be taught how to behave appropriately.
2007-02-14 20:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behavior Problems ??special needs ?? that child "needs" his butt whipped in a "special" way the only problem that kid has behavior is his parents allow it .. If some one is assaulting me ,and no one else would do anything you have to step up to defending ones self .. If the parents of the other child can not control their child , and the day care does not do something , tell you child to (1) ask that demon child to stop assaulting him, that is using his words ,(2) when that fails( which it is certain to do so , as talk is cheap ) instruct you child to knock the s**t out of that child . or yours will go through life thinking people can just treat him any kind of way ,and all he is allowed to do is say "please stop it" and get stomped on again.. That is not teaching you child to be violent, it is teaching him ,to issue repercussions for someone assaulting him. If your child mops the floor with that other child , I bet the other child will do this no more
2007-02-13 12:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You tell your son you love him enough to protect him and get him out of that day care.
I had a friend whose son was being attacked by an autistic kid and the line from the teachers was that the victim needed to learn to cope with stress. Like hell, cope with abuse is what they meant.
Your son is counting on you to help him. Get him out of there.
2007-02-13 12:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not your son's job to deal with the kid. It is the job of the daycare provider. If they won't do it, find a new daycare.
2007-02-13 12:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋