ok, so this guy (from what i've heard from everyone) is supposed to ask me out tomorrow. I know that i'm going to say no, but he's the kind of guy who goes all out for these things, u know, card, flowers, chocolate, the works. so, my problem is that i'm afraid that i'm going to make him really upset and that he will have done all of that for nothing. what should i do?
2007-02-13 12:15:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing, it is not your fault that you don't feel the same way. The last thing you want to do is call him up and tell him not to do anything, but let him do whatever it is he planned and then gently tell him no. He may be hurt and may avoid you until the end of time, but there is nothing you can do.
2007-02-13 12:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my advice to you is this, first see if you can get a hold of him before tomorrow. If you can you may want to talk to him about how you feel. By telling him no in private it will spare him all the embarrassment of having you reject him in front of all those people. If you can't, tommorrow take him aside and tell him thank you but you would rather just be friends, he may still be upset but at least telling him this will soften the blow. Plus you may get a good friend out of all this.
2007-02-13 12:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by natasha_randle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he's supposed to ask you out? Did your friends tell you? First thing to do is get your friends out of the equation. If he told your friends to tell you than you have more things to worry about.
A guy who just can't ask a girl out (without testing the idea through your friends) is not worth the pity.
And who cares if you make him upset? He's a big boy, and if you don't like him you don't like him! You can't worry so much about other people's feelings!
2007-02-13 12:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Leia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don’t like him romantically. You can stop him right now… if you have the chance. If not before you receive the gift tell him that he is a wonderful friend—that he was kind and thoughtful. That way he will give it to you as a “friend” and there will not be any misunderstanding. From the start if you don’t like a guy tell him or he will assume that you like him and things get complicated.
2007-02-13 12:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say u should talk to him and check it out....he might be really sweet and u just don't know it yet..but if he's really out of your lead then u could say thank u a lot for what he's gonna give u and then just gently tell him no that u don't like him
2007-02-13 12:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Perfectly Unperfect Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say "im sorry you went through all this trouble but no, your really sweet though"
dont sacrifice your happiness at the expense of someone elses feelings
and dont you DARE say yes unless you intend for a good relationship
2007-02-13 12:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you could go with no thank you, or you could reward him for his efforts , why anyway did u know ahead of time u would say no, then not know what to do, maybe ull say yes?
if its no, thank him for all the attention and gifts, if ur okay being friends with him, maybe say ud love to be friends, but are not ready to date him right now.
2007-02-13 12:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anon Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to go out with him.......tell him no!! Why should you put yourself in a position you are not comfortable with....just to make him comfortable......???? If he chooses to go all out.....then so be it.....I don't think it obligates you in any way to do something you don't want to!!! Or maybe if you just feel really bad....be honest, and maybe tell him you will go out with him...and thats it...just go out 1 time..and then friends after that!! Whatever you do...don't put yourself in a position you don't want to be in......
2007-02-13 12:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't want to go out w/him , just say "No". If he buys flowers, card, etc., then u're ahead; after all, u didn't ask him too, he did it on his own. His prob., not urs.
2007-02-13 12:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say yes and see how you like it. just give him a chance, you might really like him when u get to know him. if your uncomfortable while dating him, just tell him its not working out. what do u got to lose?
2007-02-13 12:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Senior@Carrick♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋