we are both sophmores in high school and she is depressed. im pretty sure it is because of all the htigns that happened to her lately. her Godfather almost mollested her, her dad was in the hospital multiple times, shes been having neck and back problems, she did something a few months ago that she regrets. i try to help her my best but its hard. i can't help her because she starts cryign manicly somtimes and when i ask whats wrong she says "idk" and keeps crying. i dont know what to do to help her. i tell her all the time to stop worring and that i will always be here. i do everythign i can to help her all the time, and so does her family. maybe you have some tips on what to do if she starts crying again, to make her feel better.
P.S. she has recently been sent to a councling hospital thing and i hope that helps her out. im just wondering what i can do to help anyways.
2007-02-13 12:08:15 · 7 answers · asked by thecoolguy 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Whatever you do, don't tell her not to worry and don't tell her that her feelings are wrong or don't make sense (even if they don't to you). They are obviously very real to her. Counseling by a professional is most definitely what she needs. Encourage her to continue going, offer to drop her off and pick her up and be available for her to lean on. She will eventually get through this and your relationship will be stronger for you having been there for her.
2007-02-13 12:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you're doing..
Maybe its just me, but when I was 16 I was really emotional and when bad stuff happens like that sometimes you just want to cry all the time. And it always will make you sad, but after a while it won't be as bad (sometimes it will though).
I don't really know what the severity of her depression is, like, does she just cry a lot, or does she not ever do anything and talk about suicide. Sorry this isn't really actual advice, but you're a good boyfriend and best of luck to you both.
2007-02-13 12:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by spidermilk666 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her family and counselors have different opinions and ways of helping. Figure out what they both use to help her and combine them when you talk to her add a few of your own if you like.
And most importantly, a girl wants to be involved with her boy friend and wants to feel needed, so take her places like a dance, ice skating, or whatever and simulate or encourage family get togethers and events.
Whatever you do don't go and say anything about what she went through to anyone else at your school, people tend to blow things out of proportion, and stuff like that gets around... Fast.
2007-02-13 12:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by majinalchemy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are a good boyfriend, and you are trying to help her. try to be there and listen to her, when she can talk, but sometimes depression is not a rational thing. sometimes people cry for no real reason, or a reason they can't find
as long as she is in some sort of therapy, and getting professional help, things should get better.
if she is not getting help, you need to encourage her, even if it means turning her into the school councelor, or her parents, or whatever.
just tell her that you will listen.
it will get better eventually, even if you or she doesn't believe that. i have ABSOLUTELY been there, and i am proof
2007-02-13 12:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by cnmshay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all sorry to hear that your GF is depressed, Teenage Depression has high level of suicide, I am not trying to frighten you I appreciate your concerns. somehow you make sure that she gets professional help and if you need any help contact me.
2007-02-13 12:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by medicineman777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that if/when shes ready to talk you will be there for her. all you can do is let her know you're there for her.
i hope things turn out good for you.
2007-02-13 12:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by x0pinklove0x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prozac.
2007-02-13 12:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋