I love for boys to have me in cheCK so I can't run over them. If a boy gives me wat I want when I want it then I don't want him. I love tuff boys but I'm scared that I'm going to get myself into an abbusive relationship. My last bf would do something wrong then we would argue and by tha end of tha argument I end up saying sorry kuz he had that much control over me. i want to change my type and have tried but I can't. Wat should I do?
2007-02-13 12:04:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really shouldn't worry about changing your type, you just need to find a guy that is balanced. That's really all you need, a guy that will stand his ground when it is needed, but be tender when you need it. A protector, and a lover. There are those guys out there, just watch their behaviour closer and trust your judgement, but don't go headlong into a relationship, before you have a chance to watch his behavior, or you will wind up in the same situation. Good luck
2007-02-13 12:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by darkpoet3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean that there are actually males out there that do not make you take the blame for what they do wrong?
First of all, there's nothing wrong with saying that you're sorry that you just had an argument. Just don't let yourself feel like everything is YOUR fault. You've got to boost your self esteem. You need to tell yourself over and over that there is no one like YOU. It's okay for the guy to be "in charge". But remember, you're a person too. He needs to make you feel special. If a guy is not willing to do this, then you AREN"T special to HIM. If you aren't special to him, then he won't care if he hurts you. Your thoughts and opinions matter just as much as any males does. Sometimes we have to learn to bite our tongues, because guys DO tend to think that what they think is all that counts. Just don't YOU fall into that way of thinking. I understand that you don't want that spoiled feeling of being given what you want all the time, but if you can hang in there with this kind of guy for just a little while, I promise you it WILL change. When they go about giving you everything, they are just trying to impress you. After a little while, their true self will show thru and they will start wanting things their way a little more. Then you might get the best of both worlds. Just be careful and learn to read guys. Sometimes they want to impress you just to bring you into their trap. Don't EVER let them hit you. Get away from a relationship that seems like it's going there. You can end up DEAD before you realize that "it won't get better"!
2007-02-13 12:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Angel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should figure out what going wrong with your life to make you want a weird relationship. you and your guy are supposed to be friends! you know, like look out for each other, or talk about things that your having a hard time with, or just party together. Get it together girl
2007-02-13 12:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to love yourself 1st and realize that you shouldn't have guys treating you that way. When you realize that you are worth more than that and you respect yourself. Their are tough guys out there that need and want a girl that is just as tough. You just got to think about how you want to be treated
2007-02-13 12:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by lash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep you're headed for another abusive relationship for sure. The way to get over it is don't date anyone at all until you learn to love yourself first.
2007-02-13 12:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunny i understand what you are saying you do not like controlling guys you like guys that have balls and will say how the feel.. Nothing wrong with that.. If you like the idea they are controlling almost like stocking you then there's a problem!!
2007-02-13 12:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Therapy, for sure. You don't have to make any decisions for yourself if he is in complete control and trust me, you are definitely headed for trouble.
2007-02-13 12:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't know....sounds like you need some therapy or something.....controlling men turn into abusive men so if this is the type you go for....then i think maybe you should start making your funeral plans
2007-02-13 12:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by blah blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dats not cool its not bad to like a nice guy. i dont like when u can control a guy either. but make desicions together.
2007-02-13 12:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
read a self-help book. helped me with my low self esteem.
2007-02-13 12:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Food For Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋