Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and a half, and we have been living together for about a year and a little bit. I've had my doubts about our relationship and my suspicions. When i checked his phone everything was deleted, untill i found a undeleted text from his phone sayin 'love you i hope your boyfriend don't find this love you loads and loads'. I've asked him about it and he just brushes it off like i hadn't said nothing,
Please someone help me
2007-02-13 11:41:35 · 20 answers · asked by LOOPY COLLEGE STUDENT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Always follow your gut...The majority of the time it's right. But if he can't talk about what you found then he's not real and you should let him go. You need someone who can keep it real and honest. I found pictures in my mans phone and he was real. I known they was from before us it was the fact he didnt delete them ... The phone he didn't use. But I said something to hear if he'd lie.
2007-02-13 11:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by m b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well like I mentioned in a previous question when a woman has a suspicion or a feeling that something is not right with their mate, then usually there is probably something wrong.Obviously he has something to hide, most of the time the man will come up with a lame excuse when a woman finds a phone number or note etc. And since he just kinda brushed it off, it tells me that it could be someone pursuing him and he's not interested.But then again he could of came across an encounter with someone, and hasn't figured out what to do about it yet. Either way I would keep asking until I got some answers,and I would rethink my relationship with this person, because if you don't have trust the rest can't follow. Good luck
2007-02-13 11:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You firstly need to sit down and talk to him, tell him youve found the text and want an explination. Hopefully it is just someone messing about, (I actually did this to my boss for a laugh! everyone at work knew about it and her Husband wasnt to impressed but realised nothing was going on). If it was a serious text then you need to establish if it is just 1 way, maybe he is getting harrased, something us blokes dont really like admitting! and is too embarresed to say anything, which would explain why everythings always deleted! if its 1 way your fine, if it's NOT 1 way..........
Dump HIM!!!
2007-02-13 11:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by British & Proud Of It 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his philosophy right now is deny deny deny...you can go with it if thats what you would like to think..or you can do something about it..in the end its totally your call....i understand that being together on top of also living with each other must be hard to accept the fact that maybe its best that you leave him and move on with ur life....its gonna kill you now..but the human heart and mind is so incredibly powerful that TRUST ME..you WILL be able to get over this..people come through deaths, divorces, breakups, you name it.....it hurts at first but with time it goes away....your a lot stronger than you think...and in the future u will be so happy in ways that you cant even see right now....do whats right for u...but u already know my opinion...good luck hun
2007-02-13 11:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh yeah... he's probaby messin around... flirting w/some grl. anytime someone deletes ANYTHING from there phone... that's def a sign that he's up to something. he's pretty immature to be playing games like that. you should dump him. you're probably young, so y the heck are you so insecure that you need a bf and why are you so stupid that u move in w/him in less than 2 yrs? don't you know what's good for you? i'll never figure u women out.
2007-02-13 11:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a close friend you know. Imagine the shoe is on the other foot, perhaps 'her' boyfriend is thinking the same thoughts as you and thinking his girlfriend is cheating.
I would suggest you keep an eye on it, but bringing it up was a mistake. You want to watch what he does closely, but don't let him think you are doing it.
2007-02-13 11:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sherlock H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if I found that, I wouldn't just ask him about it. I'd demand to know what it meant and who it was from. At least, you have A explanation. Either way though, it sounds like your man is a cheater. What innocent explanation can explain a message like that??
2007-02-13 11:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone constantly deletes all there messages and call registers they have something to hide.
You don't need us to answer this question you already know that he is cheating - who has a message like that sent to them if they aren't doing the dirty behind your back.
2007-02-13 11:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving youself over to someone who doens't deserve you... all for the sake of showing the world that you "have someone".
Kick him in to touch and take care of yourself.... don't let yourself be shafted and cheated on.. just so you can pretend to world that your mature by having a boyfriend.
2007-02-13 11:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Narky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIS ***!!!! Once a cheater always a cheater.........if you have your suspicions, you will always have suspcions and the only way you will realize that he is really doing it is by catching him with her..............Leave now while you still have your youth and before you invest more in a relationship that will never lead to anything......
2007-02-13 11:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by M D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋