is this considered child abuse?

Question

i am 13 yrs old
my mom calls me bad words, slaps me across the face, throws me out of the house, and yells at me all because i haven't cleaned my room
i cry and feel depressed after this
it isn't fun:( trust me.
and could u get depression from this situation? b/c i think i am:(
plz help me

Answer 1

Call DSS yourself. You can report it annoumously and have a professional come in. Maybe they can help change things around.

Answer 2

Yes it is. They will deny it. There is a difference between voicing their thoughts about your room and using words or actions to deliberatly hurt you. I would record these things, dont exagerate or add things, just say it as it is. Slapping is not acceptable. A parent may spank a child when they have done something wrong but it is not done to hurt them. Slapping across the face is different, it is rude, demeaning and wrong. Is your mom a child or an adult. Maybe you should talk to her or even let her read this. Maybe all she needs is a good slap in the face to see how she is making you feel.To answer your question once again any act that belittles, hurts or demeans another person is ABUSE, including yelling, punching, slapping, pushing and name calling. It is effecting you and it should be stopped. If you cant talk to your mom talk to a teacher, councellor or another adult family member.

Answer 3

Yes, that's abuse! There's no need to treat anyone like that! Where's your father? Does he treat her like that or a boyfriend or was she abused herself as a child? Call 1-800-448-3000! It's a national crisis hotline for kids in trouble like you. Someone will be able to tell you how to deal with this. Your mother obviously needs serious counselling. She must have personal problems and she's taking it out on you! Happy people don't hurt other people! So something's wrong in her life that she needs to fix! Deep down she loves you but her own problems are making her get mean! That's no way to solve anything! Please help yourself! You can tell a counsellor at school or if you have a doctor that you can talk to, that'll work too, but tell somebody! Your mom probably doesn't even realize how bad she's treating you! You all need someone to step in and help you all!!!

Answer 4

Calling you names is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse can be even more psychologically damaging than physical abuse, and yes, it can lead to depression. Slapping you is physical abuse, and she has no right to kick you out of the house. Talk to a teacher you can trust at school, or see your school counselor. You could also turn to other family members for support. Call them when this happens so you have someone to talk to and don't have to deal with this on your own.

Answer 5

This is definitely abuse. You probably are depressed, I would be if I were going through something like this. You need to be strong, and get help from people you trust. Mothers and daughters can often do battle! DO what ever it takes to make sure you are safe and secure! Talk with your mom when there is not a heated moment letting her know your feelings and like I said before get people to help a dad, sibling or other close person.

Answer 6

IF what you are saying is the truth - get off of this web page because some people can be very cruel here and speak to a counselor, teacher or another adult you can trust to get help for both yourself and your mother. Also if you know that not cleaning your room (after I am sure your mother has told you to do a million times) is going to set her rage off then why not avoid this and just clean your room?

Answer 7

Your mother doesn't have a right to mistreat you for any reason. It seems as if she could be under a lot of stress and relieving this stress by hurting you. Speak to a school counselor or someone you really trust about this situation. Being physically and mentally abused will most defiantly cause depression in even the most strongest human being, and you don't need to feel this way. Lastly, please don't believe any of the names your mother calls you, you are a good person that deserves unconditional love from your mother. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 8

Yes it is, child abuse! No one should SLAP your face, except in self defense! That is not the case, Right? No! OK? Tell, someone! Your teacher, your church, an aunt, uncle, Grandma! Someone! Do not live like that. You deserve more. Your Mom may have been through HARD times, but YOU do not have to pay! You will be doing your Mom a favour, in the long run! PLEASE, Sweetie, TELL SOMEONE! Good luck!

Answer 9

yes and no. unless your mom is really hurting you...(other than slapping) its not really child abuse she's just trying to get you to do what you're told and be a good kid. try doing the things that your mom asks of you and take pride in the things that you do...like cleaning your room BEFORE she asks. although your mom really isnt raising you the BEST way she's doing the best that she can and although she could DEFINITELY benefit from some therapy...chances are she's not gonna go for it, but it wont hurt to suggest that you and her go to family therapy. and yes you can definitely get depression from this situation thats why its best to suggest some therapy...yet try to find a way to co-exist with your mother so that she wont get on you so much.if this doesnt work and your mother is unwilling to go to counseling...than its definitely NOT YOUR FAULT and you should talk to your guidance counselor about how your mothers anger problems are affecting your life...(just leave out the slapping unless you want to go to a foster home) however, if it gets to the point where she's hurting you a lot worse than slapping...kicking, punching, or hitting you with objects...than you NEED to tell someone. i hope this helps...and i know its tough to be a kid with a parent who is less than paitent and understanding but you'll get through it...trust me.

Answer 10

Yes absolutely, this is emotional, verbal, and physical abuse. Please call 1 800 4A CHILD to get a referral to someone in your area who can help you. You could probably go to a shelter or to foster care while your mother goes through counselling for herself, if that would in fact help her. And yes, abuse is one of the main causes of depression. You are a valuable worthy person who deserves so much better.

Answer 11

Yes, child, that is abuse and you will need to get a trusted adult as an advocate. Start with your school counselor or a relative. Perhaps your mother can be directed to some parenting classes. Good luck.