Last semester he got into alot of trouble with the police and he had to go to Juvy. I thought everything had blown over but I found out that he has to go to court again and on Valentines Day. He's not even getting me anything. I don't know what to do about him. I love him so much and I want to be mad at him but I just can't. He's got alot of problems and I just need some advice about what to do. I'm so confused. Please Help.
2007-02-13 11:37:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
alot of people will tell you to bail but thats not the right awnser the right awnser nobody on here can give you must find it for your self i was in his boots before and my girlfreind at teh time stuck with me and as i got older i grew outta alot of that teenage trouble crap so yea if you really feel he's a good person it might just be a phase or it couldnt be he might just be like that and i can only speak from personal experiance , so if you think he'll pull outta of it i'd stay with him but if you see this happening again bail either way give him a chance let him know what your thinking about
my girl gave me the benifit of the doubt and now i make around 100,000 a year and own my own house and 2 cars a boat a puppy and a cat hahahaha and im only 25 im doing really well for my self but got into a lot of problems with the police when i was 15-16-17 with pot and things so really here's what you have to ask your self
#1 is he a good person?
#2 will he do this again
#3can i handle it if he does
#4 is it worth it? (is the effort of putting your self through this worth how he treats you)
#5 does he treat me well?
#6 can i do better for myself ?
#7 how long will we be together anyways
maybe's are a negitve so awnser these questions for your self and do the math remember all of these people here are simply watching reality tv with these sort of questions and your the only one that will suffer or rejoyce in your decsion so thnk carefully
2007-02-13 11:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg just reading your first line suggests so much.....please please please dont get involved with guys like this you're only 15 and wow even if he seems like the nicest guy on the earth, do you think that you really only deserve a criminal? You might make excuses and say oh but he loves me or but hes so nice to me but at the end of the day if hes been in trouble with the law already is that the sort of life you want? One thats confused with problems with police and crime by association? Ive seen so many people take the wrong routes in life because they were blinded by what they thought was 'love' - let your mind rule over matters like this.
2007-02-13 19:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" I found out..." he didn't tell you that he had to go to court again? Did it slip his mind? He does seem to have a lot of problems, and maybe too many to have time to devote to a girlfriend. And like practically everyone else said - you're 15. I know this thing with him feels like the most important part of your life right now, but your so young. If this is meant to be- why is it so hard? If you want to help, be his friend, it doesnt sound like its the right time for either of you for anything more.
2007-02-13 19:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not all juvy kids end up bad...alot of my friends went to juvy, and we all turned out alright. And by alright I mean relatively clean with university degrees, good jobs, etc
Anyways, what I am trying to say is...the guy is 15, if it's just some petty trouble, it'll probably blow over, but if it gets worse...then perhaps it's time to reevaluate things. Talk to him, he's suppose to be there for you.
2007-02-13 19:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling you heard this before but you have no idea what love is. The both of you are too young to be dealing with those serious issues. You have a long way to go. My advice is to be there for him as a friend and if you want to be in a relationship be with someone who is moving is a positive direction.
2007-02-13 19:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by nobodybetta_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you have feelings for this guy. What isn't obvious is why. He is going back to court AGAIN! He needs some help and unfortunately you are not the one that is going to be able to fix him. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get away from him. I know that is not the answer you were hoping for. But who knows what he could drag you into. Don't ruin your life for someone that has already ruined theirs.
2007-02-13 19:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably don't want to hear it but, you are only 15. You shouldn't have so much stress over a boyfriend. You need to let go. He doesnt seem like he cares about you as much as you care for him. Don't you think you deserve someone that cares about your feelings? Go out and find a nice boy with a clean record.
2007-02-13 19:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already are doing something. He knows that you care and knows that you support him. He is going through allot right now. I would keep strong and be there for him on Valentines Day. I hope you get everything you want.
2007-02-13 19:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're going out with him b/c you feel sorry for him.. pity r-ships are never good... and if that's not the case, he's already a criminal! You don't need that, no matter how much you think you love him...
2007-02-13 19:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!!!!! Don't you think you deserve better than a guy who gets in trouble, and eventually would only drag you down with him???
2007-02-13 20:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by frenchy62 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋