Many of them have not responded and I think some of those may show up anyway. Would it seem desperate or naggy to call and find out exactly who plans on attending? The party is in 4 days and I need to know how much food to get.
2007-02-13 11:26:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Absolutely it is ok, thats what the rsvp is for. Leave them a message with a deadline to get back to you and politely tell them if you dont hear from them you will not plan on them attending. You can be clear and polite at the same time.
2007-02-13 13:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, it is quite rude of them NOT to respond, and I would not go to the trouble to call everyone! If they do show up after not sending the RSVP, I'd say "Oh I'm sorry, since you did not respond, we do not have adaquate food and I'm afraid you will have to leave". I read a Dear Abby colum where that is exactly what they did and though it did shock a few people, there were no rude responses. They should be ashamed of themselves for being so rude. I hate it when people do that!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-13 20:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Baby boy arrived March 7th! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither desperate or naggy, you need to know how much food you'll want to prepare or order in, how many drinks.
If they don't rsvp, call them and say will you be coming to my party on whatever date at whatever time. If you sent out invitations they may not have rec'd them or their mothers may have never taught them to respond to an rsvp.
2007-02-13 19:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the hard part about planning anything and cooking. Nowadays people just dont RSVP/inform you if they are coming. Whether it be they are too busy or not, it's rude. Everyone knows you just fix the food for the head count you invited minus a few, but no I dont think it's inappropriate to call them. better safe than sorry or waste.
2007-02-13 19:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Libragirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally fine. You could call and say you had not received their RSVP and so you just wanted to touch bases before you went shopping. This not only gives you the opportunity to find out how much food you will need, but gives a reminder and gives people a second chance to RSVP.
2007-02-13 19:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to call them. It's better than saying "I'm sorry, you didn't respond so I assumed you weren't coming.We don't have enough food or drinks now," when they show up.
Your calling is also a gentle reminder that people need to RSVP! Maybe next time they'll be kind enough to do so.
2007-02-13 19:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
We actually had to do this for my in-laws 50th annv. party. A few people said they never received the invite and they would come, others said they thought they only had to reply if they weren't coming. So we found an extra 15 people we had to have food for. I say call them.
2007-02-13 19:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly fine to call and ask, if they plan on coming and are wanting to have a good time, you need to know what supplies to get and how much. If it is a problem for them that you call, they shouldnt come to the party.
2007-02-13 19:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by trinitymagik1985 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can call them. Or you can just go with the general party planning rule - assume 15% of those invited won't show.
2007-02-13 19:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all - I don't know if you asked for an RSVP or not but either way, you are just trying to be a good host. I think your friends should understand that.
2007-02-13 23:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Justin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋