Last spring i knew this guy, X. X seemed interested in me. We got physical before he moved out of state. I never got a proper goodbye and resented X for several months, but never said anything. We spoke on AIM & had a couple conversations. one day he told me he was coming back to town to visit friends and wanted to see me too. Friends said X just wanted sex. He didn't push or do anything, so I initiated it. I then accused him of just wanting to see me for that reason, and he denied it and apologized. I said I believed him and we continued to chat every now and then on AIM. At one point he said that i thought there was more of a relationship than there was" and I, angry by this for some reason, spitefully retorted and ranted on my blog, which he might have seen. X came to visit last month and it happened again. he was so considerate (he wanted to please me). I accused him again and said I can't be physical anymore with him, and didn't want to be friends. Now i can tell he is hurt.
2007-02-13 11:05:28 · 13 answers · asked by airheaven9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am realizing that I have been the bad guy all along and he really didn't do anything that bad. I held a grudge even after he apologized. I constantly tell him that it's okay if he was only using me for sex and he denies it. I feel guilty that I keep accusing him, when I am the one who has been a ***** to him and have acted immaturely. Now he says he agrees its a good idea we aren't friends. Yesterday I tried apologizing to him but i didn't specify for what. I am ashamed of myself. I want the courage to admit to him what i am apologizing to him for. I think he's better off without "friends" like me because I am evil & selfish. After he visited last time I was starting to fall for him but acted coldly to him and now I have ruined any chance for a relationship. I don't think he will ever want one with me now. He even says he does not "like me that way". Is there any undoing what i've done. do you think he EVER liked me? What must he think of me? I know he is hurt. I want to fix it
2007-02-13 11:16:17 · update #1
it seems like you're really jealous and angry about the fact you can't be with him and are heartbroken by your relationship with him. then you take it out on him to make yourself feel better and to make it seem like his fault. the best thing you can do is apologize to him for acting the way you do and trying to figure out why you act like this and correct the problem. if you keep hurting him like this, maybe you should take some time away from him because something about him is obviously hurting you.
2007-02-13 11:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes that is kind of mean but what do you want from him? a relationship? of just a good time every once in awhile? How can you hurt someone like that when you really need to just figure out which one it is that you want with him and then let him know and then see what he says. Talking to one another makes things better than just assuming how he feels.
2007-02-13 11:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by lash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda sounds like he's into you, but lives to far to have a real relationship. Sounds silly that you can sleep w/someone and not be able to do the relationship thing but it happens. It doesnt sound like he makes you feel used or cheap. But if he does then deff let it go. Otherwise, if it's something u both enjoy and you're being safe about your activities, then why not. Even if you're not intimate w/ eachother, you can probably be friends. Sounds like you enjoy eachothers company either way! Good Luck!
2007-02-13 11:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jaden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like a rude child who is looking for attention. The thing is you have to apologize to him if you have any concern for him and then try not to do this again. This attitude will take you in and out of relationships and you will never be able to hold on to anyone for any long period of time. I have met so many women like that in my life and I can tell you from experience, I was not their first or worse, their last and the thing is, so many of my friends who deal with them after, tell me they couldn't hang in because of the woman's attitude. Its good to know that you understand your feelings but now its time to try to get help to try to control it. Be an adult and apologize.
2007-02-13 11:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you first need to decide what it is that you are looking for out of this relationship. Do you want a long distance relationship? Would that be enough for you? Are you ok with just having a friend? Do you want to have sex with this person yourself? Then talk to him and LISTEN to what he has to say. Don't talk about sex, talk about relationships. If he says that he isn't ready for one now, or that he doesn't want a long distance one, believe him. Do not think that it could change. If he says he doesn't want one, then that means that he doesn't want one with you. If he isn't ready, he isn't ready for one with you.....etc. I know this sounds harsh, but women get so messed up with the relationship thing that they fail to use their brains at all. ....still.....you need to decide what you are ok with first and go from there. Good luck...
2007-02-13 11:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by gramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg rite this is shocling rite...
i used to see a man he would sweet charm his way into my knickers everytime he would ring me and all be like wen will i get 2 see u again and i was like no and then after a week i would get these feelings for him again and let him run bk into my knickers it wasnt a realtionship it was horrible the sex was ****!! it hurt and he didnt care! i lost my vriginty to this blocke i knew him for 2 yrs i thought i was inlove with him im still waiting for the day he will ask me out it never happend.. im seeing a guy right now no strings attached basically! and its just not good for somone my age im nearly 17 and im seeing someone and i see him once a week not sex all the time its weried really!! use women cnt give into these men im only 17 and ive been really bad i regret it that i keep letting my frist love come bk for sex everrytime he wants im become messed up really badly its turning me into this horrible person and im becoming this person that has no confidencee no self esstemm and defintly no SELF RESCEPT!! us girls need self RESCEPT and i have never ever had that for myself ever! ive never really stood up for myself wen i did have confidence it always got knocked dwn from other ppl i need to have control over my life like u should im telling u my story as help because i did wrong and i let him do it and i dnt no if i will ever stop letting him get sex from me everytime he wants because i think i love him and i would do anything for him which is not rite and espisally for someone my age :(! email me if u ever wanna chat ash44cool@yahoo.com XX
2007-02-13 11:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you working hard to prove your friend's right? Built some confidence in yourself...Do you think your only worth using? You can't play games in love and life the rest of your life.Get your s**t together and figure out where your coming from and what you really want.
2007-02-13 11:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a while. Then call him up, and say that you didn't know what was wrong with your mind, and that you are really sorry, and still want to be friends, but if you blew it you blew it, but even if you never speak again, you are sorry.
If he doesn't forgive you, at least you will have a clear conscience
2007-02-13 11:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep apologizing. Next time he's in town act nicer and hope for the best.
Be Confident. ;-)
2007-02-21 11:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, what did you expect? IF it truly bothers you that your actions caused him harm, then you need to confess and apologize. If you don't care, then you need to cut this guy loose.
Enough is enough.
In my experience, Revenge is a meal that usually gives you heartburn.
2007-02-13 11:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by mellodee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋