I have problems with my outer appearance. Who doesn't? Some more than others, but I struggle daily with thoughts of food and the idea that I will never be thin. Doctors tell me I am at average weight, my friends tell me that I'm skinny--but my mind filters out compliments like bacteria. I have a self-hatred for myself that has become unhealthy on the inside and outside, but I haven't gone to any extremes. I don't starve myself for days(though 1 meal a day and a snack is normal for me), I don't binge. The only time I've scared myself is when I became fascinated with eating, and throwing up my food. It was an easy way to eat what I wanted, and still have an empty stomach afterward. Is it just a fascination with people and eating disorders themselves? Or am I really struggling with my body?
2007-02-13 10:51:55 · 7 answers · asked by lipstick.smears 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Honey,
Eating one meal a day is borderline anorexic and hating yourself, your body is just another symptom of this disorder. You seriously need to see a psychiatrist and possibly get on some meds. If nothing else, it would be a very good thing to see a counselor, especially someone who specializes in eating disorders. You can call the hospital and ask for a dietician or if they have one, there eating disorders program. They can send you a list of therapists who specialize in eating disorders. I know that you think you are fat and you think that because you are eating some food, that you are okay. I did the same thing and I became irritable, easily upset, very tired, my hair started coming out, my periods became irregular and I even blacked out once. I had been eating toast for breakfast, an orange for lunch, and a salad or rice w/ veg. for supper-that's more than you. And I only did it for three months. All that stuff happened to me in three months. If I had done it longer my body wouldn't have been able to handle it and I would've ended up in the hospital and I know that you don't want that. I don't know how long you've been doing this, but you are harming your body, even if you can't tell. I don't understand why we see a different image in the mirror than what everyone else sees. I don't know why we hate ourselves so much and say such horriible, cruel, mean things to ourselves that we would never say to anyone else. It is very hard, but if you really try to believe that you are beautiful, one day you will see what everyone else sees. You are not ugly, or fat, or worthless, hopeless or unloved. Don't listen to those lies anymore. I know it sounds silly, but if you speak to yourself words of positive encouragement, like: I am beautiful, I am smart, I am funny, I am worthy, I have not been rejected, I am loved, and I am strong, then you will begin to believe them. It just takes time. I hope that I have shed some light on this subject and I hope that you will take better care of yourself in the future and realize just how full of potential you really are. Good luck to you and if you need to talk to me anymore, then you can always email me. :)
2007-02-13 15:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know that your worth is NOT based on your looks but based on who you are, how you treat people, including yourself, how you think, how intelligent, healthy, loving and sophisticated your mind is.
you're bordering on ocd=obsession compulsion disorder.
although i dont consider ocd as a disorder if you channel all that obsession into something constructive...such as learning a new language, doing well in school, etc. find a passion. something a little more healthy than focusing on outwardly appearances.
i dont think you need help, i think you just need to KNOW your worth:)
im not saying looks don't count. you have to dress well and have proper hygine also. but remember that health is wealth, contrary to what those retouched glamour magazines show you.
2007-02-13 19:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, i hate looking in the mirror sometimes because i think i look huge. Everyone tells me i look great, but i dont think so at all.
2007-02-13 19:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by candie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a true struggle,and one for which you should get professional psychological help.
2007-02-13 19:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by howlettlogan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah had same proble well you should get profential help no joke
2007-02-13 18:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle is a HOT blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strugling with body
2007-02-13 18:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by laceyvinn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please seek help before it gets worse....without help...it will get worse. Please tell your parents. You are not just facinated...your on the road.
2007-02-13 19:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋