Hello my fellow Christians..lately i've been finding myself struggling with being single and no one to share my life with. I have been very strong minded in this area before but lately i don't know why it just seems as if its bringing me down. I have always been about woman empowerment and have prouded myself on being a single independent woman! Trust me its not cause V-day is tomorrow its been for a couple of weeks now. I have turned to the Bible and gone to church but just can't seem to snap out of it! Any suggestions or words of encouragement please!!!
2007-02-13 10:50:18 · 8 answers · asked by Ambitious27 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What is your "Vocation"? Have you sought out what your Vocation is? Vocations are different than a "Career" in that they encompass your spiritual career. Marriage is a vocation that many women are called to. Other women are called to Teaching, Consecrated life (Nun's), or other vocations. Similar to a "Career" you can change this vocation over your life & mix and match 'em.
Now it sounds like you're being called to "Marriage" from your urnings. It also sounds like you've faced many broken hearts before. So, God needs to help you overcome any fears brough on from the past; and an openness to listen to and try to follow God's plan.
Encouraging TRUE story: It's the 1920's and a man took out an add in a local German News Paper saying, "Wanted, Good Catholic women who can cook, and ready to marry soon." A woman who worked as a "Cook" answered his add, and within four months they were married. He was 41 and she was 36. Despite their age, they had three childreen. One of whom they named after the father, "Joseph". This child grew up, became a Priest (Joseph Ratzinger), and today we call him "Pope Benedict". Now the Pope's first encylical is about "Love". His parents probably didn't share all the details of their courtship, but this man got the message that "Love" is important, and his writings in this encycical are very wise.
Second Story: A woman baby sitted her neighbors kids often. It was Valentines Day, and she was babysitting again. The little boy asked her, "Are you Married?" and she said, "No". Then the little boy asked "Why?". She didn't want to relive all the past heart break she felt though a bit and finally said, "I haven't meed the right man yet?". The little boy looked deep into her eyes, and then smiled before asking, "Have you asked God?" --- pausing --- she shook her head and said, "What?" ... the little boy got on his knees, put his hands together in prayer form and said, "Dear God, Please send my babysitter the right man to marry". Within 3 days, she got many offers for dates. (Moral of story --- Just ask God).
2007-02-13 11:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was called to live a consecrated life for Christ about 7 years ago. I made a private vow a little less than three years ago.
It ebbs and flows. Some times I go months and years without a hick up. Like you, I've been struggling just lately.
I know it will pass. I find prayer helps. And I find myself rebelling against the need to pray. I plot myself done in front of a movie which just propagates the lie of "perfect love." How silly am I?
Even couples who love each other deeply feel lonely and struggle with their commitment. I shouldn't feel bad. Neither should you.
Our experiences will helps us help others. I'm sorry I can't be more help for you right now. God bless.
2007-02-13 19:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a single Christian, I understand....at the moment my boyfriend (from Ireland) is in Norway and doesn't know what valentines day even is.....I broke up on a valentines day many years ago.
How about a single ladies valentine party? Invite all the single ladies you know, Christian or not and party righteous...(that's a party without alcohol). Praise the Lord for the day He has made and find ways to enjoy it. Forget diets for the day, have chocolate and watch a funny movie together (like Diary of a Mad Black Woman or Last Holiday).
And I'll pray for you too.
2007-02-13 19:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being single is fun! I just broke up with my boyfriend to be single! You can share your life with other people, it doesn't have to be a boyfriend or girlfriend. That's what friends are for. Just be patient, and you'll find that perfect someone.
2007-02-13 18:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Jesus show you that God is all you really need. Focus on the Holy Spirit, allow God to lead you in the direction that will satisfy your heart. He doesn't want you to be sad, He wants you to love Him. Then learn to love yourself and after that you will love everyone. You are truly on your own when you have chose to be.
2007-02-13 18:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by rezany 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not sure what you are after. when you ask for encouragement...do you want us to encourage you so that you can again snap out of it? if so....SNAP out of it sister! if NOT...i suggest you give yourself permission to start to date! life is short. be happy! whatever it takes!
2007-02-13 19:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by dali333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need the bible or church to find someone?
2007-02-13 18:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Derek 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you close yourself inside the Bible and in your house while ''Mr.Happiness'' is some dude in the club in the corner! GO OUT AND LIVE!
2007-02-13 18:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by kittana! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋