okay, heres my deal.. i'm madly in love with a guy.. whos madly in love with me.. but.. hes not faithful. at all. he and i both know that i can do way better, and that if we try anything i'll end up getting hurt. also, theres another girl who's also in love with him... theyre dating right now...(theyre kinda attached because she was his first) and although shes been told many times that he will end up hurting her, she doesnt understand and refuses to give him up. hes kinda broken it off with her a few times to be with me, but in the end always retreats back to her...and ive explained that its not fair to her for him to hurt her..because she doesnt understand..and i do. im willing to be hurt in the end if he would just give me the chance to help him..i pretty much know that i'll end up being hurt, but its killing me more now to see him with someone else..he wants to be with me, but wont because he knows he'll hurt me..and he doesnt want to... but he is already.. why cant he see that...?
2007-02-13 10:47:11 · 9 answers · asked by Lord Vlaew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok ...I know exactly what your saying.... I have been through it myself...Yes you might gain wisdom from the relationship but no guy should be dragging two women down... You need move on and I bet if he truly cared he will come back because he will miss you. So end it... walk away and you will see where is heart truly lies.
2007-02-13 10:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by musictech2727 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, the only thing is he is playing you. He is giving you that excuse that he's not good enough and will hurt you, it's a total pity party. He has learned to be a master manipulator and is able to be other women, if he was madly in love with you, he wouldn't need another woman.
2007-02-13 19:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what he is doing is pretty selfish. He is switching whenever he feels he loves one of you more. He is hurting both of you, i think you should tell him to maybe take a break from both of you girls and THINK for a little while and decide on what to do, then STICK with it.
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"and ive explained that its not fair to her for him to hurt her..because she doesnt understand..and i do. "
Maybe you should back off a little too, he is currently with her. Its you that is making him leave her. Let him leave her without you interfering, or just be patient.
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But, do you REALLY want someone who wont always be there for you? who WILL leave you dieing "to see him with someone else"
Thats what i think.
2007-02-13 18:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is, then be straight with him and tell him how u feel and tell him tah he has already hurt u. if u keep gettin hurt then saty away from him beacuse it would be like torturing yourself beacuse u're making someone else happy, and not making yoself happy making him happy.i'd rather be single and happy than taken and sad.so just be straight up wit him.and don't loose hope
2007-02-13 18:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by gillian k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasn't made up his mind by now he probably never will. In my opinion, he is getting a kick out of having two girls compete for his attention....pretend you don't care anymore and that you have moved on and if he really likes you he'll be with you
2007-02-13 18:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just tell him all this and see what he says about it and mayb if u tell him he is hurting you he will try to stop cause he is a boy and boys take a while to cetch on
good luck
2007-02-13 18:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm....maybe he will change (lol YEAH RIGHT) BUT if he hasnt made up his mind yet get urself a diffrent guy.as u said u can do way better....
2007-02-13 18:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a loser...you are nuts if you are willing to accept someone who you know will always cheat on you
What if he brings something to bed with him...like AIDS, STDs, etc...?????????????
jeese
are you nuts or what
2007-02-13 18:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant read all that for two pionts il pick a novel when i want to read
2007-02-13 18:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by uncrowned ruler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋