I have a male neighbor that will not stop calling. What do I do?

Question

I hired this man to work on my house last year after my husband passed away. I was always nice to him but have not encouraged him in any way. Last year, he called me once a week. The he asked me out, I was gracious but firm in my decline. I am not going to date.

Now, he will not stop calling! He has invited himself over to my house, I don't have it in me to be mean and say No!

For the last 3 days, he has called my house an average of 10 times. I have let the phone ring or answer machine pick up. I have told him we really don't have much to say or I will call him if I need anything but HE STILL CALLS!

He says he"worries about me and cares about us" and that's why he calls.I don't want to alienate him as a neighbor, because there are times that I have asked him to do things for me (clean my chimney, start a car etc.), he will not take any pay, but I usually bake something for him as payment.

I want to gently let him know that this is just way overboard. HELP!

Answer 1

in a case of unwanted advances, you need to be firm Tell him that he is a generous man but you are not interested in any relationship of any kind. and you should hire a handy person to do those things around the house. It sounds as if this man needs to be put in his place very quickly!!! good luck.

Answer 2

say " i appreciate everything that you are doing for me, but i am not intresed in dating you or anyone else at the moment, so i hope we just can be on good terms. and that calling me 10 times a day is too much.!

Answer 3

After 3 calls it's considered harrassment by law. Inform him of this.

Answer 4

your going to have to brake down and hire someone else to fix things for you. When he see's someone else coming or going he will understand. ANd from the sounds of it he is watching he will see them.

Answer 5

call the police

Answer 6

well sounds like you use him when u need him, and ignore him when you don't need anything done.