Last summer, i went out with this amazing guy...and though no one believes me, i fell head-over-heels in love. He moved to california and we tried long distance because apparently he was just as in love with me as i was with him...it was wonderful, it was hard but i honestly believed that he was staying true to me. and i loved him soo much. Then..i started to hear some things..from other people and him..that made me start to think that maybe he wasn't as true as i thought he was. And in the end i found out he was cheating on me with some Bi girl over in California. i was so hurt. Like screaming in agony, ready to kill hurt. Nothing could make me come out of the depression i fell into. I did break up with him when i found him out. and we had this fight and i didn't talk to him for awhile. then he calls me about two months later to tell me he's engaged. that hurt just as much as him cheating. I haven't really talked to him..but at night when i lay in bed i cry...every single night.
2007-02-13 10:41:23 · 10 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can't get over him. I just think about every moment together and how it was so perfect and it sets me off again. I haven't really been interested in another guy since all this happened. I either get afraid if i like a guy or i just don't want to move away from the one guy that i really loved and still do. How can i make the pain stop??? i really need help. It has been 6 months since the breakup and nothing has changed the way i feel.
2007-02-13 10:43:10 · update #1
First of all, I would sever all ties with him. Why are you still talking to him?? That keeps the pain alive girl!!
Think about what kind of person you "lost". He's a cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Really. He'll likely cheat on the girl he's with now. Why would you want to deal with all that drama, insecurity, and suspicion. Why do you think you'd be happy if you were still with him?? By the sounds of it, you'd probably be in pain IF you were with the guy. He's not worth it. Gaddd, you must know, deep down inside, that this guy is NOT a good catch. BELIEVE you can do better and not being together is what is meant to be.
Beyond what I've aleady said, I would recommend forcing yourself to get out and meet new people, spend time with friends. Sometimes you need to do this--push yourself to move forward even if you don't feel like it. You likely won't feel 100% in a big burst, but feel a tiny bit better after pushing yourself off the pity party train, then a tiny bit better still the next time you go out with friends or new peps.
Good luck. I feel for ya girl.
2007-02-13 10:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hard getting over a guy ( I know, trust me) but don't worry. What i do is i play sports, find a hobby. Talk to a friend you trust. Get a good laugh, it helps. Move on hunn, if i can you can. Don't let a man ruin your life. someone else will come along, someone better. It's amazing how someone can break your heart , and you still love them with all the little pieces. I feel your pain, I cried ALWAYS, don't worry. The person that constantly makes you cry isn't worth your tears, and the one that is, will never make you cry. preace out!!!
2007-02-13 10:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Fairytale * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...the pain goes away, but it takes months sometimes. I know when this kind of thing happened to me I was in agony. I relied on friends and loved ones to help me out of it. I talked to them about it and eventually I forgot about him even though I didn't want to. I got involved in lots of hobbies to get my mind off of it. Just keep busy and don't be moping around the house. That's the WORST.
2007-02-13 10:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something else to think about and stop obsessing. Accept that it's over, and it was whatever it was, but it wouldn't have been perfect forever even if things were different. It's the past, and there's nothing you can do to change the past, so focus on now.
2007-02-13 10:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey- first of all you should be happy for him because he found the woman he likes. start over- date some other guys and try to find somebody better.
2007-02-13 10:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ow!! that moron!.. just think this over and over again..
"I don't need him. I am an awesome women and there are tons of other guys who would treat me sooo much better than him. We weren't meant to be. He doesn't deserve me."
2007-02-13 10:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by dabombae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw you poor thing cry everynight, i really feel for you. but u have to hold you chin high and get on with life, what goes around comes around he shall reap what he has sown. wish him well and leave him to the almighty
2007-02-13 10:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by uncrowned ruler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go make an appointment with a therapist. they should be able to help through talking treatment.
2007-02-13 10:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok your probobly wondering why you got no answers... people dont want to read long things for just 2 points. try to sum it up
2007-02-13 10:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by [quarantine] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't perfect was he.
Just think about what he did and get mad about it. It was his doing not yours.
2007-02-13 10:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋