I got flowers from my BF sent to me, and the card says "falling in love with you was the best thing that ever happened to me" Do you think thats the same as saying i love you, or he's just telling me how deeply he feels for me.
:S why does that scare me.... i like him heaps but i'm not sure if maybe thinking its okay but when it comes out in the open, its scary?
We've been together for a few months but known eachother for a long time, I'm not sure if i'm scared of commitment or scared to actually fall in love with someone?
Can you get over commitment-phobia.
2007-02-13 10:36:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that i dont like him.. i know i do and i do want to commit to him, i think as someone said its... what am i getting myself into. and fear of being hurt maybe?
2007-02-13 10:47:16 · update #1
it sounds like he is basically saying he does love you but might not be ready to just spit those words out. I think a slight bit of panic about becoming serious is normal. I felt like that when i felt me and my boyfriend were becoming more serious and after he told me he loved me. I've loved him far before he said that to me though. it is more or less that feeling like "OMG what am i getting myself into" because when you are serious with someone and do give your heart to them you run a big risk of getting hurt. Hope that helps. If you feel you might love him wait and see, if you feel it's just fear do your best to face your fear and love him with all your heart. in the end you will be rewarded for taking risks :)
2007-02-13 10:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he is saying that he loves you "Yes". He says that he has fallen in love with you, same thing.. to fall in love is to be in love. And obviously he is very happy about it, for he is telling you, falling in love with you....in other words being in love with you, is the best thing that has ever happened to him..Girl, can you not understand he is telling you that he loves you deeply and you are the best thing that has happened to him ...Wow!! that is a very beautiful announcement of love... for sure.
You can say it is a commitment from him even though he has not said the words exactly. Why you should be scared is beyond me. If you are not ready for commitment you should have told this guy long before now.. And if he is not commitment material you should have seen it before dating for a few months.
Try to think what it is you like about this guy and where you want to go from here. If you cannot see him in your life than tell him, before you hurt him bad. If you do love him and afraid of commitment talk to someone that can help you. Talk to him and see what he says, he might be scared of commitment right now too.. If you like the guy do not do something you will regret later, take your time, go easy, and have patience. Love that is slow and cautious is always best.. Good Luck.
2007-02-13 10:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your afraid of marriage. Obviously you are already committed to your partner if you've been together a while and they're asking you to marry them, it must be pretty serious. I used to be afraid of it too, I would date someone for no longer than 2 months then get rid of them. Until I found the man Im with now, We've been together almost a year and I know hes the one Im supposed to be with. Maybe hes not the right one and thats why you are afraid.
2016-05-24 06:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion he is just letting you know how crazy he is about you... am youre a bit frightened that things might change in something bad and ruin what you have already got... life is an ever changing journey, grab the moment while you can, and conquor your fears, no matter how big/small they are, because life is too short for it not to be lived, youre pretty lucky.. best of luck ;-D
2007-02-13 10:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that definitley means "I love you". It also sounds like you are not ready to be that involved. I do not know how old you are but I would tell you not to force it if you are not ready. Doing that will almost certainly result in a strained relationship that will not do either of you any good. If it is just "butterflies", then that is normal.
Best of luck to you whatever you decide!!!
2007-02-13 10:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just over reacting to the situation. It sounds to me that he is starting to fall in love with you. If you are thinking he is moving a bit to fat for you, tell him how you feel about his card then. Communication is essential.
2007-02-13 10:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Archless Angel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i doubt commitment scares you-
you are not in love with this guy-
when you are truly IN love, your fears will be a thing of the past.
2007-02-13 10:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by choopie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that could be a combination of both, maybe you should ask him how he feels. who knows it could be either one of the 2 things. but it all depends on how you feel about the situation before you think that you are scared of commitment. it could be that you just dont feel a strong conection between the 2 of you. i would stick with your gut feeling, before taking a step that you will regret.
2007-02-13 10:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmm yesh he's saying he loves you. I think that's really cute but I can understand that it scares you a little bit. If you really want to you could tell him maybe you're moving too fast.
2007-02-13 10:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by dabombae 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Commitment is the beginning, but it is also the end....
You will never get over it unless you are very needy and singular in your thinking.
2007-02-13 10:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Santa Barbara 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋