Is this cheating...how bad?

Question

Is this cheating?
Hello all. I could really use your imput on something. I want to describe a situation I have been in and ask what scale you think it is on. Please rate this cheating on a scale of 1 to 5.
1= Bad as can be. He should have left.
2=Bad, but something that can be worked out.
3= Cheating, but not that bad
4= Pretty minor problem. He shouldn't feel hurt
5= It was nothing at all, not really even cheating.
Ok. I was working out of town. I started being close friends w/ a male co-worker. First one night we met outside his second job. He kissed me. I didn't really kiss him back. One day a few months later, I went to his house. We started making out heavily. We got in bed. Not to be to graphic here..."it" only happened for a couple seconds...we were interrupted. My husband called my cell phone. I left there. When I got home (it is a 1/2 drive to his house), his EX wife (certifiably nuts) found out, called and told my husband. BUSTED! I have not seen this other guy since

Now i just want to add that i won't leave my husband..this is not an option. I also want to add, but not make excuses. My husband has withheld sex almost our whole marriage. This incident happened after years of this.

I am not saying what I did was right. I am not blaming my husband. He was a 24 yo virgin when I met him and has never had a desire for sex. I tried to make it work for love. I am listening to you all. Calling me a skank is quite rude, but I guess I have it coming. I am not unattractive or unclean. I just don't know why he doesn't want sex. It started before he met me.

Answer 1

1 you guys have alot of problems to work out. try a marriage counselor

Answer 2

1

Answer 3

A 1 OR 2

Answer 4

1

Answer 5

1

Answer 6

1

Answer 7

1

Answer 8

1

Answer 9

2

Answer 10

2

Answer 11

1, 1 and 1