what can do to get kids tolisten?

Answer 1

First of all, I am against the idea of parent as 'best friend'. It's a parent's job to raise the child, not be the child's buddy.

That being said, it depends on the age of the child. We've had this problem with my son since he was around 2, and we're finally getting results--by explaining exactly what we mean when we say 'listen and mind' ('do what mommy and daddy tell you WHEN they tell you to do it, not when you feel like doing it') and establishing a discipline scale for it. But he had to be able to participate in this, so it's only worked the last few months or so (he's now 4).

Other than that, repetition, repetition, repetition. Or, you can be like me: instead of yelling at my kid not to touch the barbecue for the entire party, I told him it was hot and to not touch it three times, holding his hand near enough to the device to feel the heat. If he touched it after that, he would get comforted but would also be reminded that he wouldn't have been hurt at all if he had listened. Riding my kid is stressful and takes the fun out of being a parent--besides, pain is a good teacher.

Answer 2

Don't wait to get their attention until you are agitated. Designate before or after dinner as a special time to sit and converse with the kids so everyone can speak their mind. Make up a list of rules and stick to them.

Speak quietly and only once. Studies show that kids who are repeatedly told to do something, shut out the parents. If they don't comply the first time, issue a consequence: no toys,TV, phone or computer for the rest of the day. Of course, the consequence has to fit the age of the child.

After awhile, the kids will listen because they don't want to do without their favorite past times.

Set up a time out chair in the house where the kids go if they misbehave.

Answer 3

Normally hitting them betweents the ears will get the obstruction cleared .. you can not get kids to listen they have to be made to listen ,you can not get kids to mind ,they have to be made to mind... Seems to me a lot of people on here think they have a kid ,and everything else runs on auto pilot, People have forgotten the whole responsibility of child rearing, some have even called it "raising kids" ( which refers to raising baby goats) these are children , you have to set boundaries , you have to discipline, you have to train , these children to grow up to be decent,productive, human beings, in a society.. remember when this child grows up ,and becomes either a crackhead or shoots up someplace , ask yourself who raised this person , there is no such thing as compromising with a child , this is someone you are responsible for bringing in this world therefor you are responsible for how they turn out you are in charge of this precious gift. Get a dayum back bone and be a parent. not the friendly tour guide of life . Parenting is the hardest ,and not always the prettiest job in the world.....If you know wrong from right teach it to your child after all they learn by watching you at a very early age (day one)

Answer 4

The foundation of discipline with your children is your relationship with your children. So, how old are your kids when you start pondering this question?

If they're brand new, start by nursing on demand, holding your infant whenever he/she cries, and avoiding more than 10 hours a week of separation between mother and infant, which causes serious intellectual, physical, emotional, social, and behavioral problems.

This really reliable, natural mothering produces a child so in love with and so attached to mommy, that there is a strong motivation to please. When attachment is disrupted by separations or by not meeting the child's needs consistently, the child is far less motivated to please. So, get a good foundation in, and you're more than halfway there.

Babies should just be redirected from problem behavior, rather than scolded. If they persist in returning to something dangerous, say, "Danger!" look alarmed, and redirect them to a fun activity.

Whatever your kids' age you start thinking about the question, the way to get kids to listen, as to get anyone to listen, is to put yourself in the other person's frame of mind. Respect your child, ask them what they think, what ideas they have.

Think like a child. Children are overwhelmed by yelling, they are shamed by your disapproval. What this means is that it's very hard for them to process what's being said in such cases and it's hard to learn what's being said.

It also means that there shouldn't be many rules. There should be just the rules you need. You should try to say yes whenever you can, and you should always say no as nicely as you say yes. In the early toddler/preschool years, you want to state rules in a friendly, helpful way, like you're just letting your kid in on how things are around here.

Tell your child, "What's wrong with you? Get off that couch, it's not a trampoline!" and you will get your kid jumping on the couch over and over. Look a little startled and say nicely and seriously, "couches are not for jumping on" and your child has learned a rule they want to comply with.

Make your expectations clear, tell your kids in advance what you want and need from them, remind them once if need be, and then remove them from a situation if they're not following the rules.

The book "How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk" was a great resource for us. It's so easy and quick to read, with lots of cartoon examples. It helped us so much and actually works are they advertise!

Answer 5

Make sure they are looking at you when you speak, that the acknowledge they have heard you... Come up with a plan for when they don't listen or follow through.

Answer 6

Tie them up, then you will have their undivided attention. How old are they? That will make a difference in how you will gain their attention. If they are small, it will take time. If they are grown, forget it!

Answer 7

don't yell just talk softly but firmly so they have to shut up and listen. i think all kids have selective listening they only hear what they want.

Answer 8

get to talk to them because yelling and smacking will never help..infact, it will make them be more worse..be their best freind so dat they can be able to understand why things happen.

Answer 9

Smash them upsdie the head.