Need help on self esteem!!?

Question

I have really low self esteem, and I was wondering if any one has suggestions on how I can raise it.....I'm 15 years old..and I've never had a boyfriend or anything (I think this has something to do with it).

Answer 1

love yourself...its the only way.

Answer 2

No no, there is nothing wrong with your self-esteem. You sound like a wonderful young lady, and only because you haven't had a boyfriend is nothing to lose sleep over. If you feel a bit down though I suggest to understand that at 15 years of age, you have an entirely long future ahead of you, the guy you're looking for can wait, don't be in a hurry, focus on your priorties and organize and get all your priorities in order, and having a boy friend isn't really all that important at this point in your life. I have 3 wonderful sisters who used to feel down quite often and those 3 sisters of mine have me and nine other brothers, so, 3 sisters and 9 brothers, hey, anyways, what happened, their self esteem was down every now and then, but once they recognized at a very young early age that boys, whatever, weren't all that significant, they focused on education and behavior and keeping a good and positive attitude about the world around them, and they are all now doing great! You are okay, trust me on this, there are plenty of guys, and you have to patient, and by being patient you can be selective instead of rushing into something that you may regret for the rest of your life like getting pregnant and that would be tragic, please, a final note, keep your innocence and things will work out in the long haul meaning that by the time you psychologically and physically mature you will be more inclined to focus on the more important things for your future. Cheers. Patience.

Answer 3

i am older (36 now) and i felt the same way when i was your age. i didn't dress as cool as the other kids and i certainly didn't look or feel as cool as the other kids. but, ya know what? i made it through and so will you. maybe change your hairstyle. ask a friend to help, so you have a second opinion of how you look before going out with it. read some magazines on make up tips.
don't worry, though. you will grow up and you will be cool as an adult because adults care more about personality anyways. i'm now dating a very good looking guy who was actually very popular in high school. he can't believe that i was not popular.
oh, and 15 years old is not too old to have never had a boyfriend. take your time. you have a long life ahead of you. you don't want to date someone just to say you have a boyfriend. go out on some group dates with a whole bunch of your friends. that's what i did and i did not even miss having an official boyfriend.
chin up!!!!

Answer 4

Believe in yourself. When you start loving yourself the rest will come. I used to feel the same way you do and I became a mother at 15. I wouldn't trade my son for anything but maybe if I would have had more confidence in myself I would not have slept with the first boy who paid attention to me. When I became pregnant he left and he never has saw his son, he still denies him to this day. That was 19 years ago. I now have been happily married for 14 years to a mna who loves me and my son(my son now calls him dad) and our other two children. What i am trying to tell you is hvae confidence in yourself, be proud of who you are, and you will find someone that you love and who loves you back. Don't be so worried about having a boyfriend, just be friends with everyone and when the time is right, you won't even know it's happening, you'll meet the man of your dreams. Take care of yourself, I hope evrything works out for you. If you ever need someone to talk to please IM me i would be more than happy to listen and help if I can.

Answer 5

Why is yourself esteem low? Are you unhappy with yourself for some reason, or is it just because no one has approached you from the opposite sex?. First you need to find beauty in yourself no-one else can do that for you. If you need help, write down what you feel you have to offer the world and a relationship. Also figure out your weaknesses and work on them. The opposite sex will start showing you more attention when you are a little more confident and remember inner beauty is the truest beauty.

Answer 6

Hi Jenn,
It's OKnot to have a boyfriend by 15. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was almost 18. I was more focus in school, I was a little nerd, and I didn't feel attractive at all.
Don't let the peer pressure hits you. Probably you have classmates that have boyfriends, and this make you feel worse.
Do you remember the story of the Turtle and the Hare? Apply this to your own life. You have lots of time to have a boyfriend.
Now you should focus on you, and the wonderful human being that is inside you.
Please check this web site that talks about self esteem in teenagers.
http://www.marchofdimesyouth.com/tools/guide/esteem.pdf

And remember: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE SPECIAL, AND UNIQUE!!!
Love & Blessings

Answer 7

If you are waiting for someone or something to raise your self-esteem, you are going to end up wasting a lot of your youth like I did.

Part of the answer is in your question: "self." Ask yourself what you can do to make yourself feel better. Write down the ideas. And then throw out ANY idea that depends on someone else (such as "I'd feel better if I had a boyfriend") or something shallow (such as "I'd feel better if I had more money.")

Focus on things like your health, your education, your hobbies, your friends. There is no magic cure, just knowing that you will only realize how special you are when you stop telling yourself you aren't.

Answer 8

I know what you're going through, I was in a similar situation when I was your age. Focus your time and efforts on something you like or are good at.

and to be completely honest, it's not that hard for a female to find a boyfriend, especially at your age, all you really have to do is show interest in someone, if they turn you down go to the next one. But be aware, guys your age only want one thing, and that's what's between your legs, but you may just find a couple of guys that aren't accepted by the popular kids who'll be down for some of that long term stuff.

good luck kid, hope I helped

oh, and that macaroni guy needs to get a life.

Answer 9

15 is very young and there's absolutely no reason why you should be depressed just because you haven't had a boyfriend. High school relationships don't even last most of the time. It's when you get to college or when you're truly looking for a husband when you should start worrying. Now you're just too young. Infact, if i were you, I'd live high school life single and free and enjoy high school. Who wants to be stuck with one person throughout high school? High school is about friends and having fun, not dating. Just because you have no boyfriend doesn't mean you should feel bad about yourself. Only a little percentage of teenagers are in a relationship anyways. So don't feel bad, be happy and live life to the fullest! =]

Answer 10

Hey, cheer up. I'm 17 and I've never had a girlfriend. I used to think that's why I had self-esteem issues, but really it was just something that faded away with time, and being happy with who I am.

Think of your high points, your accomplishments, and your friends that you've made throughout the years - and just know that you're a very special, and unique person all-around.

I wish you the best! Never forget that you deserve to love yourself.

Answer 11

Self esteem comes from self love, not a boy's love. Hey what girl doesn't want a nice guy who cares about them?
Did you know that how you feel about yourself is in direct relationship to who you will attract. You will not attract anyone good until you think you're good.
Work on yourself first; read "Living in Love with Yourself" by Barry A Ellsworth, "Self Matters" by Dr Phil & "Happiness is a Choice" by Barry Kaufman
Best of everything to you