my boyfriend wants me to take it in the butt but i feel really uncomfortable about doing this. He is very persistent on doing this and i dont know what to do. He says that it would only be fair because he likes butt beads in his butt and he wants me to feel the sensations that he gets so that i get the same pleasure. Should i do it or not. Please respond a.s.a.p.
2007-02-13 10:29:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do and should never do anything that you aren't comfortable with. Just because he enjoys anal beads doesn't mean that you will or even that you should try. There are a lot of good reasons for enjoying anal but being pressured into it isn't one of them. Honey if you take it in the butt it should be only be because you want to and for no other reason. This is your call to make and whatever you decide he should respect it. If he doesn't then that should tell you something about him. Good luck!
2007-02-13 17:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Barb S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only do it if YOU are ready. If you aren't ready for it you won't enjoy it and it will probably be very painful and may cause internal tears of the anal lining.
However, if you decide you want to give it a try why not start with those beeds that your bf enjoys. That way you can get a sense of what it will feel like and it will probably relax you for later. Let him play with that area if you are curious, but don't let him just jump in with "himself" to start things off, it will end badly and he will feel horrible about it (at least I would). My wife and I used to do it often (and she enjoyed it greatly), but we had one bad experience and it hasn't been pleasurable for her since.
Let him know that if it goes badly this first time you will probably never let him anywhere near that area again.
Here are some tips if you decide to go this route:
1. Use a lot of Lube, and I mean a lot...once you think you have enough, use a more and continue to use it during.
2. YOU HAVE to be relaxed or else it may hurt.
3. Start slow with a finger or beeds, then maybe two fingers and move up to HIM.
4. Make sure he goes slow and isn't too rough or else it will probably hurt as well.
If you guys are carefull and you are ready for it, it could be a very enjoyable experience.
Good Luck, and I hope you will have him read these responses as well.
2007-02-14 09:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by CSURam98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To better answer your question would be to know what is it about this subject that has you feeling uncomfortable, asides your boyfriend's aggressive insistance.
I'd try using the art of compromise here. Is there something in the bedroom you'd like boyfriend to do, but he's reluctant trying??? If so, then you have some leverage here.
If not, then why not try anal PLAY (not necessairily sex)? Find some small, short, slender anal sex toys and LOTS of lube. Have him go about this expermentation on this level SLOWLY; allowing you the opportunity to even see if you like this.
And if you DISCOVER you do like the anal play, I'd then suggest you do some reading on how to safely have anal sex; such sex is done with patience, care and concern for the receiver. Anal sex is STARTED VERY VERY SLOWLY for it to be done right. And in time, anal sex may be something you two can enjoy, sometimes REVERSING the roles.
There's nothing wrong with anal sex and you'd be surprised how many couples enjoy such sexual pleasures.
2007-02-15 04:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he like that sensation so much. Then do something that will get him put in prison . And I'm sure there would be guy's in there that would be more than happy to full fill his deep anal pleasures. Tell him that , to stop pushing the issue . That when your ready that you'd not verbally tell him , but let it happen naturally.
2007-02-13 10:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by I'm so Bad , I'm good!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone enjoys something doesn't mean you have to. If someone enjoyed eating poo, and loved it and thought it were only fair if you did as well because he loved it doesn't mean you have too.
You're clearly uncomfortable with it, don't let him force you into anything. Shove a dildo up his *** and say eff off. Don't be with someone that's forcing you to do something you don't want to do.
What a dick head he is! If that were my boyfriend, I'd drop kick him!
Stand up for what you believe in, you're allowed to say no.
2007-02-13 10:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Love is suppose to be an Emotion, that Both should share. If you have problems, with anything? He should respect you. Tell him that Love is from the Heart. Not like that. If he Loves you? He'll respect you. And allow you to respect yourself. Be firm. Or he'll keep making demands!
2007-02-13 10:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable don't do it. It's not for everyone. I was going to tell you to suggest he do it first but since he is experienced that won't work. All you can do is think about it. There are people who really enjoy it, but don't do it just because he wants you to.
2007-02-13 11:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Beeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion i think you should give it a shot .... just try it once or for a little bit and if you really hate it tell him to stop or that you dont want to do it any more
2007-02-13 14:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by slice 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really feel uncomfortable should trust and not do it.
besides it is so uncool to take it in the @$$ because it feels like crap literally
2007-02-13 10:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by drpepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not comfortable, so don't do it. You have a right to be touched in the way you want to be with your boyfriend.
2007-02-13 10:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋