did i do the right thing?

Question

i went out with this guy for 4 months. He always called me and wanted to come over all the time. He just wanted to spend ever waking second with me. That was nice and all but i didn't want that. And now i feel bad i still talk to him on the phone. I still just like him as a friend but he likes me more than that. But now i am confused because i want to give him another chance. but i don't think its for the right reasons. I just want him to be happy again . I feel like a bad person. i don't know what to do? please help me.

Answer 1

Do what is right for you. You can't go around trying to make other people happy. You have to make sure you are happy too. If you are going to go out with him just because you want to make him happy you will end up making yourself miserable

Answer 2

tell him that he cant just spend ever waking second with you but That was nice and all but you didn't want that. and now you feel bad and you still want to talk to him on the phone to sart off with and you just like as a friend and tell himyou know he likes you more than that and you know that.. And your confused because i want to give him another chance. but you don't think its for the right reasons, that you just want him to be happy again, and your sorry but you feel bad about the hole thing and your hopping that he undrstands how you feel and so is friends ok with you then

Answer 3

You know, it may be the right gal for the right guy...but just at the wrong time. It may be that he is a little bit ahead of you in the feeling catagory, and you are just a few lanes behind -----but able to catch up, just not now.

Sometimes it is just a matter of timing. Things don't click the first time, but do the 5th time around. Who knows why you are on different levels right now? Perhaps he will cool his heels a bit, and you will warm up a bit, and 8 months from now - you both be just at the "right spot".

Whatever you decide - don't just be a people pleaser and do things just so that he is happy, if it means that you are miserable or neutral. Neutral is ok to start, but at some point, your feelings need to catch up with his, or he backs down to yours. It's great to have someone really crazy about you, but not to the point that you are uncomfortable. Just give him more time, and see if there are ways to maintain a friendship with him without giving him a massively large "green light". You may need to run up the yellow (caution) flag with him for now until he understands that you are not where he is at, but to just be patient with you as you work out your feelings for him. He needs to respect your point of view and your emotions right now. He needs to give you some space and time to think things out. But in the meantime, remain friends, and figure out things you have in common and if there is a future for you two as mates, or just buddies.

It will take time, patience, a good ear, and compromise. Talk things over with him and see where he is with how he feels about you and his goals for you two. Best to you!

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Answer 4

If you date someone just because you feel sorry for them or just because they are a nice person, and you don't truly like them any more than a friend, you are just going to end up hurting their feelings down the road. Eventually you will break up with him and it will hurt him even more. Don't live a lie. Let him know the truth now - gently. And don't expect him to want to be friends - and least not right away. He will be hurt and may not want to be around you for awhile, but he will forgive you and your lives will go on.

Answer 5

Well in my opinion you have two options. Either you can go back out with him, but before you do tell him about why you broke up in the first place, perhaps you can resolve that issue. On the other hand you could tell him that you only like him as a friend, and friendship is all it will be. Probally not what you wanted to hear, but things arnt easy in relationships.

Answer 6

You should not have to do anything that does not make you happy when it comes to love. It does not make you a bad person to be honest with him about your feelings just because it is not what he wants to hear. Be yourself and honor your feelings. If you do what he wants or needs you will end up with no life of your own. Stand strong....and be true to yourself.

Answer 7

Ok i had the same problem. But the guy, after we broke up he was so perverted. and i couldnt stand it anymore so i told him the truth. he was mad at me for a liltle bit, but hey i feel as if i did the right thing. I am not telling you what to do, but it feels really good to tell someone the truth. Even if it means it will hurt them.

Answer 8

I was with a guy for 4 yrs like that. he was obsessed with me. I loved him too in the beginning but then it got irritating but i just couldnt break his heart. its sooo hard when they're sooo good to you. I stayed with him just to keep him happy. but at the end i became miserable because i didnt want to be in the relationship.. so i ended up leaving him and breaking his heart. it just had to be done, or else i would have lived miserable forever.

Answer 9

You did the right thing.. He will get over you give him time but don't give him another chance because he'll never leave you alone if you do because he'll expect another another chance lol.

Answer 10

i know were u are coming from. honestly i think u should do what you want. he may get upset but its your life and you shouldnt stay with him cuz u dont wanna hurt him.just tell him u dont think of him like anything more than a friend and HOPEFULLY he will understand. if he truley likes u he wont want u to b unhappy.