Okay, friends.. need some advice. I've been e-mailing with a guy from myspace and I think it's time to talk on the phone and maybe even (yikes) meet in person. He's been wanting to tlak on the phone since the 2nd e-mail -- but I've been drawing ut out, Problem is, when I don't know someone, I do NOT do well on a phone call. What should I talk about? How can I make it feel less like an interview... less painful??
2007-02-13 10:22:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him how you feel and what you said here
2007-02-13 10:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all be careful. I know he may sound really great. But some people present themselves in one way and you find out they are completely different in person. Hopefully this is not the case here. But If you do meet him. Meet him in a public place. Don't go off with him alone. As far as what to talk about just be yourself. Conversation will happen. You see. I met my husband six years ago through a news paper ad. All he stated that he was new to the area and wanted to meet people in the area. I met him in a public place. I drove my car. We met on a fishing pier lots of people around. We talked and walked around for two hours. Then we left separately. That was seven years ago and we are still together. So you see these meeting can work out. good luck
2007-02-13 10:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been pressing for the call, then let him carry the conversation. Don't sweat it, as it's not unusual to be nervous or tongue tied the first time you speak with someone (phone or face to face).
You may find him easy to chat with and that the words will flow naturally. Just go for it (phone call) and that'll give you a better idea if you want to go to the next step of actually meeting.
Good luck!
2007-02-13 10:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds like your parents but be very careful when talking to him that you do not give a lot of information about yourself. Remember you do not know who he is. If you decide to meet, make sure someone knows where you are going to be. Maybe take a friend with you and meet in a public place. You dont want to become another internet statistic.
2007-02-13 10:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by cinsingl83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i met my boyfriend on myspace through a friend, so we had a mutual acquaintance from the beginning. the first phone call was on a cell phone, and i didn't reveal my home address or anything until we had talked for about 6 months, and he came to visit for new years AFTER i talked to his parents, and he talked to my grandma and everyone trusted everyone else.
if you can find things to talk about in emails, a phone call shouldn't be too uncomfortable.
good luck!
2007-02-13 10:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...this is pretty hard...HONESTLY make sure u trust this guy and he isnt a complete creep...i mean he could b puttin on a act so he can meet u in real life...BUT u didnt ask about that...on the fone call u should just start talkin about what u two have in common....and what he likes,just lil stuff like that.
2007-02-13 10:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be yourself and let him do the work --- tell him you are not good on a phone call --- then you can joke about that --- this is not a serious call this is just to hear each others voice and break the ice --- have fun and best wishes
2007-02-13 10:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i think online dating is stupid and pointless.. if you're scared to talk on the phone with him i dont think dating him is such a good idea.
but for the phone call
don't make akward silences obvious... don't go
"soo... umm... yeah...." or "mhmm... akward silence..."
instead... ask a question -- so what did you do today? how was your day today? something along those lines
dont be scared to talk to him -- just be yourself
2007-02-13 10:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by berly102001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u feel comfortable ask for his phone number. but when u call put *67 so it makes your number restricted. and als talk to him on the phone more before you meet him.
2007-02-13 10:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by jdcorvettelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk about things you talk about with him online its just that you will hear his voice and not just a words on a screen good luck hope it works out
2007-02-13 10:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what u need is just self confidence. call him and ask him to choose a topic to talk about.if he said u choose, then choose to talk about your future togather.what is it gana be like. any way just put a plan to what your going to say and call him. I am sure your plan will be changed.this happens to me always.call him and u will like the result for sure. in sha allah. bye
2007-02-13 10:34:53 · answer #11 · answered by goodluck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋