my boyfriend just died, and i'm really nervous about going to his funeral, as i haven't met any of his family yet. they all know about me, but have never met me, and we havent been together for that long. a few months, but we loved each other. any suggestions on how to make it a little more comfortable, when i meet his family for the first time, without seeming like someone trying to get attention?
2007-02-13 10:15:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, mainly just act casual. There is usually a line of family (grievers) If there is, you shake their hand and if they ask how you knew him just say something like "we were going out fora few months or just say you knew him well or we were good friends.. They may ask you questions or not. If they ask for your name they may recognize it and ask if you two were dating. Just say the truth otherwise just go to each one. Shake hands or not depending on them and just say "sorry for your loss" or something.
You should not feel embarrassed or anything. You love him and you grieve too.
Good luck and if you want to talk I have YIM. Bye.
2007-02-13 10:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by mistyfan69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go during the funeral times for about an hour a day and then the actually graveside. If thats how they are doing it. Dont make a big scene. Just be yourself. But you don't need to sit there the whole time. Go with a friend. Or a parent.
2007-02-13 10:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I must say I'm so sorry for your loss.
I can really understand your predicament. What terrible circumstances to have to meet all his nearest and dearest under, as if the day isn't going to be stressful enough for you :(
Granny's idea is good.. ask your best friend to go with you, you'll feel a lot stronger having someone's hand to hold.
Best wishes :)
2007-02-13 10:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by riffyxraff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about that,but I know that you should just be yourself,cry it out.I know they know that you are going through pain too about his death.When talking to them try not to act nervous or seem as a suck up,If there is a conversation,you can tell them about yourself,and about the good times you and your boyfriend had.
2007-02-13 10:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences! You should go and bring someone with you to help you thru! Go and introduce yourself to them and keep in contact with them after this. Carry out the wishes your boy fried would have wanted to happen. You meeting his family and they getting to know you and the love you have for him. Let the love y'all had shine through!
2007-02-13 10:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but frankly, I think they'll be so consumed with their grief, that you being there will be a small issue for them. I wouldn't worry about it. Sorry for your loss.
2007-02-13 10:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋