I have a boyfriend and I have been dating him for a while. I like him a lot. But I keep on getting those days where i dont want to have a boyfriend. I just want to be single. I think i feel like he is a little obessed with me but i dont know what to do. Is that something normal?
2007-02-13 10:12:49 · 15 answers · asked by tisthething 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is normal to have a few days that you would wish you could be single but, if they out way the days that you want to be with him then it might be time to move on.
Good Luck
2007-02-13 10:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda, i get those days where you wanna do something, and then i remember the other half, the poor girl who's heart i would be breaking. The question is, what outweighs what? When you don't want boyfriend, or when you do. Don't make any quick decisions that you might regret. think- the decision u wanna make- will you regret this time tomorrow? its totally normal if hes obsessing over you, hes afraid to lose you! I know it can sometimes get annoying, but that's gotta mean something right? you sound lucky to have him, but if it's really that bad, let him down in a way that you quickly quickly if you changed your mind, say sometime" I think I need break" something that doesn't totally end it, but tells him to back off. Hope today (valentines day) isn't to bad!! Maybe just talk to him, if your can do it , and he can take it and build on it, you guys could be very happy!
Bona Fortuna!
2007-02-13 21:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by spatchyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is normal and is called "being a woman." Women, by nature, are indecisive and can't decide if they want or don't want something until it's too late. I doubt that your boyfriend is "obsessed" (in the derogatory sense that you seem to be perpetuating) with you, at least no more or no less than he should be. If you like him and he likes you, what's the harm in him having a great amount of feelings for you? Would you really be comfortable with someone who didn't look at you as if you were his world? You clearly like him less than he likes you, for if you like him a lot, what's with you not wanting to be with him? Maybe you should release him so that he can find someone who appreciates him the way that he appreciates you? Otherwise, realize that those days that you want to be alone/single shouldn't outweigh the days that you like him... I suggest making up your mind now before you betray your relationship any more than you already have by voicing your discontent on a public forum where he and everyone else can easily see it.
2007-02-13 18:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Trapdoor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing! (gotcha!) I think, you're just with him. `cause you want someone by your side. If that's the case? Live and enjoy. But don't go around telling anyone that you Love him. Love is a 24 Hour Emotion. And it's suppose to be from the Heart. Both of yours. And you're disrespecting the Guy. If you lead him on. You wouldn't want him to do that to you. Would you? Give yourself a good thrashing, for not respecting yourself. You deserve to be loved. Just do it, for the right reason. Loneliness, isn't a good reason. Take care!
2007-02-13 18:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to start my telling you I had the same exact problem. My boyfriend and I had been going out for a while, and I just had these spurts where I just wanted to be single, becasue I felt tied down, and there was so much out there in the world for me to discover. I didnt end up breaking up with him, because I understood that relationships take work. Their not perfect, and realtionships have their up's and down's. You have to tough them out- those times where you want to be single. Its very common for women in relationships to want to be single, but if you really like him, then you need to tough it out. Me and my (now husband) are highschool sweethearts, and I'm very glad that I didn't break it off. You might regret it in the future if you end it, wondering what could have been. Best of luck in your decision making.
2007-02-13 18:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? How long have you been dating?
Not being happy in a relationship all the time is normal, but perhaps you two aren't a good match anymore or your relationship has run its course...only you can decide.
2007-02-13 18:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a day and tell him that you don't want him to call or anything, so you can have a little space... and see if that helps? you're probably just overwhelmed with the attention... try having a girl's night with your friends
2007-02-13 18:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i get that feeling too! Its probably because you wanna be able to not have any attachments! If u really love him then stay with him
2007-02-13 18:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet And Sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very normal... Maybe you are scared of getting hurt, but like I said, it is very normal.
2007-02-13 18:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get drunk and F a bunch of other dudes, then, when youre feeling guilty, you can always cuddle back with the sucker you want to dump.
Sick yet genius
2007-02-13 18:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋