HELP im to shy?

Question

HI im really shy aroung girls, i cant just walk up to a girl and say hi, ive tyred but dont have the bottle to, i dont know wot to say to them even if i could walk up to them, so can u help me,,

Wot can i say to them
when should a approach them

please help me

P.S im not really good lookin so its hard to find a girl that like me for who i am,

Answer 1

aww thats so sweet, girls dont like cocky or arrogant guys anyway. being subtle and polite is the only advice i can give, oh and being funny goes a long way too!

Answer 2

Look at yourself. Look at me here. We are both people who are equal to each other. I am a girl are you shy now. You shouldn't be. Just talk to a girl as if she was a guy. Most guys have interesting subjects to talk about. When you approach say hi but don't stop there start a subject right away. Like: Hi how are you today? She says: Hi, great. You say: Great day at work(school) today how was yours? Then go on about a sport or a movie or anything you have done and how great it was. Never mind that shy thing, the conversation should just go. If it doesn't go your in the wrong place. Try again with other people. All personalities don't match up.

Answer 3

Two words. EYE CONTACT. eye contact makes sure the person sees you. that's the first step. can't get anywhere if they don't take notice of you. Not to mention eye contact is a confidence builder. Most people wouldn't think something as simple as that would work, but it really does. Example: your walking down a hall and a woman is walking towards you. It's just you and her in the hall. Naturally you might have that small awkard feeling. You could be asking yourself do I look away? Do I say hi? Do I pull out my self phone to create a distraction? Your feeling uncomfortable and nervouse in an everyday situation. Confidence can easily fix that. And confidence is something alot fo shy guys need. Not necessarily confidence in your work or in you persay. But confidence with women. And you don't have to practice with women at the start. Start with you and a mirror. Then you and friends/ family. Then strangers on the street or in building. And the next time your alone in a hallway and a lady is coming towards you, make eye contact and give a nice smile. Of course this time around she could be the one who is looking for distractions, and she could be the one who needs to work on eye contact. Then simply continue on. You don't even need to say hi, but by this point you should have enough confidence to say that 2 letter word.

Once you've worked on that a million doors will open to you. Your new found confidence will make you feel more comfortable stepping out your bubble and expanding your horizons.

And your thinkin yea yea. Its not that easy. Try it. Don't expect to work in a week though. And believe me when I say Eye Contact is the initial force to get the ball rollin

Answer 4

The fact is some girls aren't going to give you half a chance and that's their loss, but its your loss if you don't give yourself a chance. Its not hard to speak to a women. Whats hard is dealing with possible rejection. Once you realize that everyone gets rejected at some point (including hot celebs) then your more relaxed. First understand that you have a lot to offer a women, play on your strengths and work on your weaknesses, but by all means be confident in yourself and speak to them like your already their friend. Take your time there is no need to rush.

Answer 5

Hold a door open for her.It's pretty chivalrous, and girls like chivalrous men.And hopefully, if she has a good attitude or is not distracted by something else to see that you just performed a polite gesture to her, she will say thank you.Say your welcome.You could say that you like her shoes, or something like that, but that would be too obvious unless you walked away.For some girls.You really ought to get to know someone if you want to be in a relationship with them.Maybe she's your neighbor or classmate or that girl who works at the corner store.If you pass by her, give her a nice comment and walk away.
Good luck.

Answer 6

hi england 11 listen my brother you and i are in the same boat i to am shy, but i learned to apprecate it. first of all you must look in the mirror and recognize that you are handsom despite others comments. you must look with in yourself and find yourself to be attractive and once you do that then others around you will see that you're an attractive man. then you just approach the young woman smile say hello and if she is interested she will keep the conversation going. don't be afraid, build your confidence up and let the new man out.


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Answer 7

females that talk a lot tend to like shy guys more so you have an advantage.
females like shy guys cause they know you won't tell everyone your business.
females like shy guys cause they want to be the one to turn you out.
females like shy guys cause they are great listeners.
You have a big advantage over the average guy that always brag and boast.
Just start off like it's a normal conversation What's up? I'm a pretty shy guy but I think you're cute. my name is..... (you finish the rest)

Answer 8

Just act normal. I usually try to listen to other people and find out about the interests and then I see whether I share some interests or not, like soaps and stuff like that.

Answer 9

Start by just saying hello, to any girl in order to build your confidence, and then try and say more every time you talk to one. Before you know it you'll be married with kids and a dog.

Answer 10

just walk past and say hi. if she says hi back then you're talking! if she doesn't try later. the thing with just walking past is you can then just walk off and run away and hide if you feel you need to.

i'm sure there are loads of girls out there who are just too shy to say hi to you. you don't need to be good looking, just be friendly to her. a good personality goes a very long way. so good luck, feel confident. you can do it!

rachel

ps i'd say hi back!