For my sex aware life, the answer to me having sex was abstinence, but I did not see wrong in having it.
The idea first came from my Christian beliefs, but I did not continue to believe it for that reason, nor do I believe you go to hell for it. I believed in the beautiful ideal of first sex with the person you loved enough to choose to spend your life with.
I am now 21 and for the first time in love. My boyfriend respect my decision to wait, but would jump at the chance. I have had 2 pervious long-term relationships. I never seriously questioned my ideal of sex after marriage until now.
Of course the want of sex has been there, and is stronger then every now, but now I question if waiting is still for me. I am a very passionate and exploratory person.
Friends know my ideals and it has been a part of my identity.
I would feel guilty for abandoning a dream, and uprooted on that part of my identity. I would have a whole new world to explore, and someone that I wish to be very close with.
2007-02-13 09:54:58 · 5 answers · asked by cloverpondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't have sex, don't DON'T he'll wait for you, you won't feel guilty after marriage. Don't have sex.
2007-02-13 10:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by 938439 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you made it this far keep going. I think it will make it all the more special when you do get married that you saved yourself. doesn't matter if it's a personal belief or a religion based belief. sounds to me like you would regret it. I'm 22 and I'm still waiting.
2007-02-13 10:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Beeper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is how i m now too.....all my life i said i would lose my virginity when i get married to the guy i love...well i love my bf and the urge is there to have sex but i no if i have sex then everything i believed in wouldnt b me anymore and that part kinda sucks....i know how u feel....i think if u feel it deep down that u can have sex wit da 1 u love n are not married to them and not feel bad about it or regret it later on then i say go for it.
2007-02-13 10:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in love then go for it. but otherwise i would wait. but make sure your partner loves you back or it wont be as special
2007-02-14 17:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give away your precious dream and gift. Wait, and your dream will come true!
2007-02-13 10:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋