When you ask some one to play the piano or organ or perform at a wedding do you also send them an invitation to the wedding and reception. We are trying to plan a small wedding for my daughter and we have asked the hand bell choir from our church to perform a song I the mother of the bride am in the hand bell choir there are about 15 people in the choir and with their families would be around 40 we are trying to keep the wedding around 50-60 total. Do we invite all of these people and their families? Just those performing or none at all? What is the proper thing If any one is up on their wedding etiquette please let me know
2007-02-13 09:47:30 · 6 answers · asked by paulawrenn 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I do see your dilemma. You do send a wedding invitation to the organist and also to the clergyman. If the members of the bell choir are so kind as to perform at the wedding, they should be invited to the reception. I realize that it will cost considerably more, but I fear you would have hurt feelings. I wish you the best of luck in your planning.
2007-02-13 10:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, performers are not issued invites and do not get to bring guests, but these are performers and friends. So...here is my suggestion:
If we are talking about all adults, invite the choir member and spouse. If the member is single, only invite long time boyfriends/girlfriends (about a year or more). Do not invite their children. If we are talking about younger members (some bell choirs have teens and pre-teens in them) Invite the member and parents. No brothers or sisters (unless they are in the choir also). I hope this helps.
PS If anyone complains, simply inform them that it is your daughters wish to have a small and personal wedding.
2007-02-13 10:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by zaleonia1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to just get them together and ask them very politely if they would play for your daughter's wedding. No, you don't have to invite their families. I would also give them each a small gift of appreciation afterwards for doing this for you.
2007-02-13 09:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Angela F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to invite the choirs families. The choir is there to "work'
2007-02-14 00:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to invite them after all you are paying them. If they are doing this free of charge then yes I would invite them. Have a lovely day!
2007-02-13 11:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think asking them to play is not the same thing as a guest....by asking them, that's their invite. No - not the families. You are asking them to preform a service for you....not a guest per say.
2007-02-13 11:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋