my bf and i got cought in the girls restroom together???now i dont kno what to do about him?

Question

that was 3 months ago. he always wanted to have sex with me, so one day on the phone he broght up goin into the rr.bball season had just started and it was first day of his tryouts.i was in sports medicine so i had access to keys and stuff.he asked me to get the keys and i said maybe.during the day that we were gonna go into the rr i wrote him a note about the keys.but when i was done i thought it was crappy so i stuck it in my binder.after 6th when skool let out. we walked down to the rr. he told me to go check to see if anyone was in there,so i did. he walked in on his own. i didnt force him or anything.we didnt do anything cuz i backed out.but we did get cought by the aps. and got suspended for 3 days. i got searched and they found the note. and when we came back he ignored me and we were over. hes a jerk to me now. he had 2 girls since. hes still on the bball team. i got kicked out of sports med. he told everyone that i forced him into the rr. that he said no and i pushed him.

in 6th per. (the class we have together) he talks to a girl and tell her **** about me, and says stuff like i never liked her, i hate her etc...stuff like that. none of what he says is true about what happend. and it makes me mad and hurt that he would say that. and also i found out that all his friends pretty much hate me. i just dont kno what to do. i kno what we did was wrong and i wont do it again. but i want to kno his reason for all that he has done. never again do i was to talk to him or anything, im just really confused. he has really tricked me. cuz during the relationship he was like the best bf a girl could have. now everytime i look at him i hate him

Answer 1

I can't speak for him, but I can say, that the majority of lies that are said about girls have to do with the fact that they are embarassed! I would suggest, hold your head up and ACT like what he says doesn't hurt you.

In terms of the other girl - that he is lying to about you... I would talk to her, and set her straight.... also, his lies will totally catch up with him! Believe me... I work with stuff like this ALL THE TIME, and kids who lie about stuff like this, are ALWAYS being found out by their friends and classmates!

Other than that - I am glad that you learned your lesson!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Seriously, there's more to life than your high school drama. I know it sucks now, but keep this in mind. This will seem so minor in just a few short years. Keep your head up. It's not easy to act as if you don't care, so the key is, brush it off. You can't let this stuff bother you. Once you get out of high school, you'll have serious problems to deal with. Your reputation doesn't matter in the real world. Not saying to go and mess around with every guy you meet, but right now he may be spreading rumors but where will those rumors be when you get to college and after that. Left there in the halls and classrooms to be forgotten. Which they will be at that.

P.S. Should you be having sex if you stressing about rumors? I mean, sex is a responsiblity for mature adults.... Real adults don't stress about rumors, I mean mature ones anyway...

Also, someone on here stated to talk to the other girl... either she's going to agree with you to your face and spread even more rumors about you, laugh in your face, or make an alliance with you and make his high school career a living h.e.double hockey sticks. The right thing to do, would be to let it all blow over and forget it ever happened. Which would make you a much better person. There's a great saying, "Kill 'em with Kindness". Just be polite, civil, and respectful, show them it doesn't get to you. Now on that note, do you really want to take the chance that this "other" girl might respond in my first two instances?

Answer 3

loud and proud baby!! dont let him take your personal power!! say straight up, in-front of anyone and everyone.. bud just want to get this **** straight. I backed out.. I thought you were the sleeze you are!!, i got busted and took the rap for you buddy, you didnt even step up and take the rap for your own self, sarcasticaly say, yeah what a real man you are! everyone will get the point, as for the school and your team sports, be persistant!! keep aproaching the coach, the principle and be strong.. tell the school you are an asset and because you got abused from a guy doesnt meen you should lose out on a scholorship. that isnt good, write the newspaper ah ha stir up the **** and get yourself in the clear. stupid jerk eh!!! talk to his father!!! and mother, and you know what, the last thing you should worry about is that he doesnt like you now, cause he was just a user, at least even if it sucks the way it all went down, you got rid of him.

Answer 4

wow, the best thing you can do is to just put it past you and move on to the next level. See what you can do to get back into sports medicine at the school and if that dosen't work out seek the work experience you need elsewhere. Your school work, and your future needs to be your focus right now, not him. His reasoning behind this was probably to take all the blame off of him and to place it right on you. Maybe he fills that since you both got caught and couldn't do anything that he needs to talk about how bad you were to make him look good. He might also think your mad at him, and he wants it to be known that he's mad at you before you can say anything (whether he's mad or not). Just focus on the task at hand, and one day when your in sports medicine you'll be able to pick what ever hunk you want!

Answer 5

Here is what happened, your bf wanted to have sex with you, up until you both got caught. You were found with the note which gave him deniability and out of trouble. Besides not getting in trouble, what he did get was a rep without actually having to do anything with you. This sadly - made other girls interested in him. So he got out of trouble at your expense and also got some sex from other girls. This tells you how much he really cares about you. The same thing would have happened if you did go through with it. Be glad that you didn't. Now you just feel like you got in trouble, it could have been worse, you could have got in trouble and used or even worse - pregnant.

Count your lucky stars and wait for a boyfriend that deserves to have sex with you.

Answer 6

You must feel awful. What a XXXtty way for him to act. Especially when it was his idea! He doesn't deserve to be your bf any more so at least you've got rid of him. I mean, to let you take all the blame!!! That is not bf material, and it sounds like a couple more girls have already found that out this year.

Now he's making it even more rough on you by talking behind your back and even when you're in the same class. The guy is a jerk.

Here's some advice. Don't let him get to you. He's just a scared little child trying to put as much distance between him and the truth as he can. Anyone with those kind of values will get theirs in the end. But it's not up to you to be the one to give it to him. Let someone else take him down in the worst possible way. You keep your hands clean of it and you will end up looking like the better person, cause you are.

So, ignore him as much as you can. If you're stuck with him in this class then ride it out. Always take the high road. If he talks about you, know in your mind that you are the the better one, the honest one, the one who wouldn't stoop that low. If he confronts you, give him the hand. (like talk to the hand, but don't even give him that much to hear.) Just say, "Stop xxxxxx. We're over. I don't want to talk about it." and walk away. Continue to say this until he gives up.

Find friends that support you, and stick with them. If you happen to be buds with any of the big football players, great, ask them to be your bodyguard of a sorts. Let your "muscle" do the shooing away. And his friends, I wouldn't believe that they all hate you. If they're athletes they will go along with the crowd b/c that's what they're taught to do. Secretly, at least 2 or 3 of those guys like you and would want to go out with you if they didn't have to support their teamate.

How could I possibly know this? I went through it when I was in HS. Broke up with my girl, she worked hard to turn everyone against me, and I felt like she had. I got so frustrated I went back to her. Later I realized that everyone wasn't against me at all. Some said why did you go back? Looking back, I see that most of my friends were with me, and I should have gone with that. Don't make the same mistake I did. Keep him out of your life, and go on to find other guys who are worthy of you. Good luck.

Answer 7

The best thing to do is to try to ignore him because you're both still in school and he was almost getting what he wanted. You're just the one who took all the blame because they found the note on you and thats what makes you look more so guilty than he does.

I would imagine the immaturity for him telling other girls that " you hate them " and what not is to make himself feel less embarrassed by the situation , which in turn would cause you more embarrassment , or cause some fighting. It might be a good idea to talk to a teacher or guidance counsler that you trust about the situation so more than only you know the truth.

Good Luck

Answer 8

First wow u can type! now about him he's probably just had his ego bruised and is grounded so he's taking all his anger out on you.
For the best thing in the world to make u happy would be getting him off your chest! Try making an appointment with your school guidance counselor or sit down with a teacher or friend and tell them what really happened. Since he pressured u into this whole mess he should be the one paying bot apologetically, socially, and academically not u! trust me make the appointment and u might go in there thinking " omg this is so embarrassing" but trust me you'll come out stronger,confident, and will be so relieved he's out of your life!

Answer 9

You should warn every young girl on this site who asks about sex with her boyfriend. I just wrote to a 7th grader about it, warn her what really happens when you get involved with a guy sexually at this age. You got hurt by a jerk, looser and it's not something you deserved. You trusted him and he turned on you and so did the school it sounds like, he got treated better and is still on the team but you got booted. Not fair. But that's the thing of it, life can suck so watch out for yourself and don't trust too easy the next time learn the lesson that if a guy thinks he might get some off you he will be super to you, until he's found out or gets it off someone else. You guys got caught so he quickly turned against you to save himself, talk with the school counselor about what he's accusing you of and insist they do something. He's basically acusing you of rape and ruining your reputation, which is slander. Anyone who knows you knows the real truth, stick with your friends and try to avoid him. Good luck

Answer 10

hes a jerk. dont u worry about it. sounds like hes only doing it to get a reaction from u. dont let him see that it bothers u. move on find someone who u like,,, and then u never know he might come crawling bak. then thats when u have all the pride when u turn him down.. u obviously deserve better and do u really want to go out with somone who can be so cruel xx good luck