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Would you let your mother in law move in with you and your husband plus two kids and you didn't like her because you felt like she was muching off of you and so she wouldn't have to work?

2007-02-13 09:07:09 · 37 answers · asked by mrs.new_major_07 2 in Family & Relationships Family

My husband isint that close with his Mom. We are building a new house and will be finished in April. The Mother in law asked how many bedrooms the new house will have. I told her three but I think that she was hoping for 4. Sorry mother in law!!

2007-02-13 09:17:57 · update #1

37 answers

well if i didnt like her than no, isnt that kinda like the movie monter-in-law?

2007-02-13 09:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

If you do not get along with your MIL it will be in the best interest of your relationship with her, as well as your husband, not to let her move in with you.

However, my case is quite opposite. I have always gotten along with my in-laws wonderfully. In fact, my MIL and FIL have been living with my husband and I and our two kids for almost 3 years now and it has worked out very well. We live in a big enough house where they have their own apartment in the basement and my MIL is a huge help with our 6 and 7 year olds. I truly believe we all have a much better quality of life because of this situation. My in-laws get to literally see their grandkids grow and be apart of their everyday life and my husband and I get the benefit of their assistance with the children allowing us to spend more time together than most married couples.

2007-02-13 12:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 2 0

No. The only way I'd let my mother-in-law move in is if she were dying, and had no place else to go. It's not fair to any of you, but especially your kids. I grew up living next door to my grandparents, and my mother and grandmother didn't get along at all. I suppose they thought my brother and I didn't know about their fighting, but we did, and it was not a good situation. I cannot imagine if they had lived in the same house!

2007-02-13 09:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There would be noway I would have ever let my ex mother in law
moved in with me, work or not. They are the nosiest people in the world. My mother in law lived in a different state , when she came she wouldn't tell you long she was planning on staying, my ex told me , "Don't ask her , you might hurt her feelings". She nosed into everything while I was at work, I fooled her. When I knew she was coming I put everything I didn't want her to nose into like important papers, bills, etc.in the trunk of my car, it was loaded. She got to where she didn't comes as mich , couldn't find anything to nose into.

2007-02-13 09:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Personally, I would not, its such a hard situation. When family lives with you it will cause tension no matter how well you get along or like each other. I can see by the mooching comment you really don't want her there so see what you can do to help her get a place of her own. How does you husband feel?

2007-02-13 09:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by auntkacki 2 · 2 0

If I didn't appreciate and respect my mother in law I would not allow her to move in with us. She must hold up her part of the household like she would have to if she lived alone. She would have to contribute to the household.
Now is she was ill and unable to work that would be a different story. It is all about respect, honesty, and careing. If you don't have that then you have nothing.

2007-02-13 09:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by oldone 4 · 0 0

My mother in law is in an urn on my mantle, which is the only way that woman was ever going to get to stay in my house for more than two hours.

2007-02-13 09:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 4 0

No it's not a good ideal to have his mother or your mother move into your home. If they need a place to stay help out with their rent but don't move them into your house.

In-laws have a way of getting involved in your marriage.

2007-02-13 09:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1 0

Oh Hell no! No way my mother in law would move in with me even if I had 10 bedrooms. We don't get along and it would ruin my marriage! My hubby feels the same way! He loves his mom, but no way is she living with us!

2007-02-13 09:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

It sounds like you have some hurt feelings. Have you tried talking to her and sharing your views? Even though it doesn't seem like it now, that may well have a good result. My mother in law hates me for reasons which I cant discern. I would love it if she would just tell me so I can smooth out any rough spots.

2007-02-13 09:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by ® 1 · 0 1

It depends. If she is really in trouble and only stays for a short time- it's probably okay. You may need a favor from her one day....However, I would make it clear that it's not an open-ended invite. Set a time limit.

2007-02-13 09:10:13 · answer #11 · answered by Lo 2 · 0 0

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