I want to honor my father who passed in 99' at my wedding with out being to glummy. I thought to just have a chair with his name and a bouquet of flowers in the front row. Rather then making a special ceremony like the "rose cermony".
My brother did that at his wedding and everyone was balling, any other suggestions?
2007-02-13 09:03:53 · 22 answers · asked by Jessica S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i posted a similar question on here because i lost my father in 2003, someone on here said to maybe have your bouquet had one flower a different color (possibly his favorite color) so he is with you . It is something more private to recognize him. i put a link to the question i posted as i saw alot of good suggestions. i gave that person best answer. congrats on your wedding though, i am sure he will be watching from heaven!
2007-02-13 11:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what the rose ceremony is, but when I got married we had a single white rose (since these were his favorite flowers) in a vase on the altar in memory of my grandfather. We put a small note in the program noting that the altar flower was in his memory. Then, after the ceremony, we gave the rose to my grandmother so she could enjoy it.
It is also odd that in one of the wedding photos we had taken in front of the altar with my grandparents (the 3 living ones) the white rose also appeared in the photo over my shoulder. I know the photographer didn't plan it that way since they didn't mention it and when we had other group photos, they didn't pay attention to where the rose was.
2007-02-13 21:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They make memorial candles for weddings that say something like "In loving memory of (name or names) who is/are with us in spirit". You could set up a small table with a picture of your father, or some pictures of you and him. Personally, an empty chair in the front row would just remind me that that person wasn't there.
2007-02-13 20:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Vickie R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Between my fiance & I, we only have one parent and one grandparent still living. We're honoring the ones we've lost by placing a picture from each of their weddings on a table with candles and other decorations. This way, people will be remembering our lost loved ones but at happy times. They look so young in the pictures!
2007-02-13 23:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely can relate to this. My grandfather died when I was really young and so did my fiance's grandfather. We still want to include them in the celebration of our marriage so what we come up with was to get a picture of each grandfather in a frame. They will be up in the front next to the Unity candle on a table, each picture having a small candle in front of it. In the beginning of the wedding the candles will be lit to symbolize that even though they are gone they are here in spirit.
I can't guarantee there won't be any tears but it's a nice way to include them even though they aren't with us anymore.
Good luck!
2007-02-13 21:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the empty chair idea is spooky. It's just so obvious he's not there. Just put a white rosebud on the altar or in front of where you're getting married. And say it's in "memory" of your father. (Put it in the program at the bottom with an *) Not to be rude, but you don't "honor" a dead person. It's always in "memory". I almost guarantee no tears and it's tasteful.
Best wishes to you.
2007-02-13 18:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i like the chair idea. it is clear, and not in your face. people might cry.... but people always cry at a weddings.... it is very emotional. it is your wedding and if you want to honor the memory of your father, you should. as long as it is not made a major part of the ceremony, people will remember it as a happy day, and not glummy.
2007-02-13 17:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss.
If you draw special attention to your father passing, then you will have to deal with the feelings this will evoke. You can't ask people not to feel emotion & this will definately do it. Some will be able to shake it off by reception time, but others will not.
You might have your officiant say something in regard to the fact or place it in your wedding program if you're having one. Discuss this with your officiant.
2007-02-13 17:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am getting married in June, and we are doing a memorial at our wedding for our deceased relatives.... and we are having a blurb in the bulliten, and we are having a memorial candle on a table up on the altar to remember them.
Good luck and congrats
2007-02-13 19:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Amy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At my wedding I had a candle made with all of the names of the decesed for my family as well as my husband and I lit the candle before dinner in memory of them
2007-02-13 17:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋