I've been with my girl for a lil over a year. I have told her that i love her because I do, shes the first girl i've ever told I love. She plans on goin to a different country for college, but it wont be set in stone for a lil over a year from now. We have talked about it and we have told ourselves to wait to see what this year brings us. But to continue this for a year then to have her take off to another country will suck, and to break up and her not even get into the school would also suck. She knows I love her eventhough she has told me she doesnt believe in love. But the fact that she told me we should just see were this next years takes us before we plan anything eventhough that leaving me is a possibility...I dont know how to take what she wants from me or "us". I dont see how u can tell someone you dont believe in love but when you know that the other person does love you and then put them in this situation how can i take it?
2007-02-13 08:53:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Blah blah-if she stays your good, if she leaves you're fcuked (her too-lol). Ever had your heart broken? No? Sounds to me like you are on your way to officially becoming a man. If it does happen-just go get drunk and find another one. Congrats and Good luck.
2007-02-13 09:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by lkrhtr70 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This brings to mind the plight of the Mormon missionary. Young men ages 19-21 will leave behind their girlfriends for 2 years. No phone calls, nothing but letters for 2 years. Some of those girls wait, while their 'missionary" is gone, and they manage to keep themselves busy for 2 years of college and other activities. If it's someone they really want to have a future with, they will wait. There are approximately 50,000 missionaries out there at any given time, and 80 percent of them have girlfriends at home. Just so you know, you are not alone.
2007-02-13 08:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Man.. I don't know your girlfriend. But I can give you an advice: dont talk to anybody about your girl/ love difficulties, and dont take any advice from them. if it's first time to tell a girl you love her. what I can tell you is you'll never forget her. Man you don't need her at all.. You have pride, you have dignity. Don't ever accept that "she'll see and if she'll feel herself happy with you she'll stay". NO!! you are together=you are together.
She must respect you. She must know that you gave her a part of your heart, and she must know how expansive is it!
2007-02-13 09:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by hunga bunga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is unreasonable to expect her do modify her life plans. It is clear she is not ready and her plans do not allow for your relationship.
If you are happy stick with her but It would be foolish to expect her to wait for you and I think it would be wrong. Romantic maybe, but lets face the facts, young people grow up in college and they are not the same person after 4 years.
If you are in a rush to fall in love and get married you should look someplace else. Good advice does not always feel good.
2007-02-13 09:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok dude....this isnt going to be easy...but what you need to do, is just break up with her......do you really think she is going to build a shrine to you and pray to it every night? She is going to have fun with the locals, and want to experience everything she can, usually thats more fun with someone you like of the opposite sex.....
SO...you can sit there and waste a year of your life, or you can cut your losses and move on......
In a year maybe you can see what happens....i know women would like everybody to believe that men are uncaring jerks, but i can tell you are sincere in your letter, and it sounds like you love her more than she loves you.....make your choice dude....waste a year of your life, or enjoy it.
2007-02-13 09:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by butch 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only thing I can say is to end it with this girl. Anyone who says they dont believe in love is talking trash and sounds like she is stringing you along.
2007-02-13 08:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay together and see what the year brings - no one can control the future, a million things can happen in a year.
if she does end up getting into school overseas- you should be supportive! especially if you really do love her. you'll have a fun place to visit and maybe it will be in the cards for you to join her there for a semester...
2007-02-13 08:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1) maybe she was hinting she doesnt love u hello i Dont Believe In LOVE all girls believe in love
2) build a teleporter and then u can see her
2007-02-13 08:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by shawn:) 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you'll find someone new. Break up. Long distance never works out.
2007-02-13 08:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if she goes, break up. i mean, long distance never works
if not, be happy =]
2007-02-13 08:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋