What do you think of Teenage Sex?
Ok i know teenage sex is TOTALLY wrong. With or without condoms. But it's just that in my schoo, to get respect and popularity, you need to atleast have had sex. I tried to tell my friends that it's a waste of time and can mess up your life. But they think im "little little miss goody too shoes" or I"m a saint. And they give me weird looks.
Some even tell my my *****'s too ugly or smells. That's why no guy would want to **** me. I try not to let this get to me, but it does. And i don't want to change who i am for anyone. Should i have sex at 15 like everyone else.
2007-02-13 08:46:38 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Honey, I think it's awesome that some girls are still trying to wait for the right time... no matter when you do it, it should be for you and no-one else. If you really want to shut them up just tell them you did- it's not like they can prove you didn't!!!
2007-02-13 09:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because your friends have sex dose not mean you have to have sex. Now lesson to me! I made a Huge big mistake when I had sex when I was young. You do not want to have sex right now, and please do not let anyone force you do something YOU don't want to do. It is better to have Sex when you get to be an Adult(plus find the right guy). It sounds like your Friends don't really respect you. I honestly would not even take there advice. And honestly who Cares of being Popular! I mean it is better to be yourself then have someone tell you that"you are wrong" and you know what, don't change because you are not wrong. just please don't have sex right now because you will regret it in the end.
2007-02-14 00:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say to you as someone who did just that when I was a teenager so I could feel wanted and popular and ect ect...is that not until I met the man I am married to and fell inlove was sex even pleasurable for me and I finally saw what everyone else was talking about. If I could take it all back and have saved myself for marriage when I was older and ready to handle the consequences I would. Don't do it,you will regret it its a huge responsibility with consequences you are too young to deal with. I am sorry to say you need new friends there are other just like you,you need to find them and surround yourself with them and tell the ones who mock you for acting responsibly to back off.
2007-02-13 09:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to those bullies! That is not respect! You don't want to be popular in that way! You would be labeled a sl** or a W***e. Keep your innocence and your dignity and wait for Mr. Right! There are way too many diseases(including deadly ones). And teenage pregnancy! Guys will use you then toss you aside for someone else!
You have your whole life ahead of you.
I have a niece who got pregnant at age 16, her first time having sex. She did finally graduate high school(at age 20), but she also has to work to support her child alone, because the father wants nothing to do with her!
You are right, it can mess up your life! Please wait! You will be much happier you did! Don't pay any attention to the goons telling you what you said in the second paragraph, they are jealous, because they lost there dignity and self respect!
2007-02-13 09:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Gramms 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your friends are morons, wait no if they tell you stuff like that then they are not friends to begin with. You should find a different group of friends who are more respectful. You do not need to have sex just because everyone else is doing it. Fact is, im sure most people are lying. You should have sex when you are mature and able to handle the consequences of having sex like the risk of STD'S and possibly getting pregnant. Besides 15 is to young! just be a teenager and have fun at the mall or whatever you teens do these days.
2007-02-13 09:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Reality Has A Libertarian Bias 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are not comfortable with doing something then don't do it. Take it from another female, sex is very emotional for us especially the first time. Make sure when you feel you are ready that you care for this guy and he cares about YOU b/c he waited for you. I hope you wait until you are a few years older b/c you'll find at your age boys are immature and they got a reputatuion to keep they might not care about your feelings when they go bragging to their buddies that they "got some". Sounds like you're a smart girl be better than that and go against the crowd. You are not alone there are girls your age that want to wait don't let your friends negetatively influence you. Ask yourself this, are you willing to accept the consequences of sex if you do get pregnant are you ready? You're not, not yet anyways.
2007-02-13 09:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sacajaweava 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No you shouldn't have sex at the age of 15 just because your friends want you to, don't get me wrong if it's with someone that you really care about then make sure it's something you really want to do, don't be pressured into it by your friends, if that's the case then they can't really be true friends, as harsh as it is, but it's the truth, i think you should do what you think is right but just make sure other wise you will regret it for the rest of your life, trust me!
2007-02-13 10:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by nicole m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have your morals pretty straight right now. no you shouldn't change for anyone. and your friends are wrong to have sex just because it will make them popular. you know what once your out of school popularity doesn't matter anymore.
and even with use of protection there is still a chance to get pregnant.
so i think your better off waiting until you can deal with the emotions that go along with having sex and dealing with the consequences.
keep up the good work.
2007-02-13 08:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by redhot_001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing inherently wrong with sex. It can be a beautiful experience of caring and intimacy between two people. But that's only true if the people actually care for each other, and if both are ready to have sex.
That doesn't seem to be the case for you. Those guys are jerks, and they just want to use you. They don't care about you, your happiness, or your pleasure.
Good sex is your right. But that's not good sex. It's just pressure to cave to popularity.
Stick to your guns and wait until you feel ready, and until you can find someone really special to share it with.
2007-02-13 09:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sex can be a wonderful thing but not if you don't feel ready or are pushed into it. If you need to ask if you're ready, then you are clearly not. Not yet.
Maintaining your self respect is far more important that following the herd. Don't rush, do it when you are ready to. In 10 years time the stupid childish crap won't matter but your self worth will. Stick to your own beliefs and don't let anyone push you - this is about YOU not them or their silly peer pressure.
It's your life, remember that, yours and nobody else's.
2007-02-13 09:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Wildamberhoney 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋