Last night I was talking with my boyfriend and found out he kissed another guy, his best friend, during a dare from a girl he want to basically sleep with. So they kissed and he basically got the girl. That kind of raised my curiousity him but ok I wasn't too much tripping. Then were talking about going to some exocit show and he was telling how a lot of things go on there and I should know what to expect when I'm there. So as were talking I just out of curiousity asked him if we were to go and some guy tried to kiss him would and he said yes if he were drunk enought, so ever since then I been thinking and wondering about his sexuality. I don't know if I'm just putting to much on it or what but It's got me thinking and I can't stop. I'm I was thinking what if he's done more with a guy or could he possibly be gay. What do you guys think? Am I putting to much on this. I mean should I be worried or not?
2007-02-13 08:37:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to add we've been together for 2 1/2 years and this just all came up but I never suspected him to be gay or bi but just this has raise an eye with me
2007-02-13 08:48:48 · update #1
He said it was no big deal and they a laughed about it and it go him what he wanted from this girl and that it was just a quick kiss on the lips, but just that he said he would do it again well if drunk but still that got me wondering. Personally I would never kiss a girl so im tripping why he would a another guy.
2007-02-13 08:51:59 · update #2
Just because he kissed a guy that doesn't make him gay. Your mom probably kisses you a lot how come you never question her sexuality? Like he said he only did it to get with a G I R L bottom line. I think your just over reacting a little. When you catch him wearing your cloths or feeling on some guy then you worry.
2007-02-13 08:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Good one. A dare is a dare and it doesn't count towards your worries. The rest of it looks like he might be exploring his sexuality and might not have everything down pat.
Above all, you both need to be clear that you're magnifying the risk of picking up something nasty if you start "kissing outside the family". After that come the worries about whether he's entirely happy with what you give each other.
Swinging is one thing, but you might want to talk to him sometime soon when you're both relaxed and find out whats in the wind. If he's kissing someone else, he's cheating on your relationship, no matter whether its another girl or another guy and unless you're happy to fill the bed, its going to break you apart.
You both have to set down the guidelines of your relationship. Communicate, communicate, communicate!
2007-02-13 16:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy. And well.. I would'nt kiss a guy on a dare. Ever. And I woulds'nt kiss a girl on a darei f I already had a girlfriend. And, you said he "Got" the girl? Your boyfriend went to sleep with a girl, and yo'ure worried about him kissin a guy on a dare?
2007-02-13 16:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Avatar Unknown 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if you should be worried. he kissed a guy because a girl that he wanted to sleep with told him too? i think that if hes your bf and he wants to sleep with another girl, then maybe you should break up with him. have a serious talk with him and ask whats going on.
2007-02-13 16:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by starstatus586 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't necessarily mean he's gay. People have different degrees of comfort or attraction with either sex, and some people "experiment" or are "curious," but wouldn't consider themselves gay.
They say that some of the worst homophobes are gay themselves. So at least your bf isn't like that.
2007-02-13 16:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Surely Funke 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should definitely be worried but i think that you should investigate the matter more before you take any action. all my friends that are stright would never even kiss a guy if it was dare and they were drunk, but i do have a friend that is bisexual and he wouldnt have to think twice about kissing a guy!
2007-02-13 16:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No the guy is definately gay! Sure he likes kitty cats, but it sounds as though he longs for a rump roast!
2007-02-13 16:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he may be because if he wasnt he should have never kiss a guy in that party.He should have said EWW
2007-02-13 16:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by carebear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like this guy has more interests than just you. If you are seeking a monogamous relationship, it sounds like this is not the guy to have it with.
2007-02-13 16:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if you are putting too much into it or not... however.... I would be super curious myself - if my man were acting like that!
Why don't you talk to him, and just spell it out for him!
Good Luck!
2007-02-13 16:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by Glory 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋