have a friend, known for about 2 or 3 years, not counting, but since i have known her she has been in one bad relationship followed by many other, but always goes back to the first one. he treats her horrible, imagine it he has done it, get it? why does she stay, she says cuz she has no where to go and no money but in the past she has had money and somewhere to go. i feel bad cuz she calls me crying. now what?
2007-02-13 08:23:59 · 10 answers · asked by CATWOMAN 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She goes back and stays with him because that is all she knows.
She come to the realization of how bad it is and then leaves but, she always goes back because she know nothing different.
She needs to find someone who will treat right and then she will see how she should be treated.
2007-02-13 08:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its her fault, tell her to go see a psychologist to help her get over the guy. She probably wants the love back that she had before with him so badly shes hurting herself in the process. If she can find a great guy to sweep her off her feet then im sure she will lose all interest in him, but finding a guy like that? What are the odds right? Id be willing to help out but I cant do much from yahoo answers.
2007-02-13 16:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She most likely fears being away from him and alone. He's probably hot and cold with her meaning that his Hot is great and she feels wonderful with him but his cold is horrible and leaves her crying and depressed. She doesn't know how to let go because she needs his hot side and probably is emotionally attached to those highs. She REALLY needs to feel that she is a great person as she is and not because he makes her feel good about herself in spurts. Can you help her find a genuine and better guy? It would help her to see the green grass on the other side.
TGW
2007-02-13 16:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by thegrinningwolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to listen a little longer----it sad. I have done it myself what your friend is doing now. We all make some horrible choices but she has a very good friend in you. I am glad for her and yourself. U may have to put up with her bad choices for awhile, if it gets to bad encourage her to do what her heart n mind tell her even mention it---LEAVE THE ASSHOLE BEHIND, CALL THE COPS if that is what you have to do to leave but leave his *** behind, ya dig?! Peace love respect bless to you both!
P.S. if she needs some money or a place to crash help her find a job, give her a place to crash until she can afford a place on her own...but if it gets physically abusive encourage her to leave that same day, it only gets worst after a week or two!
2007-02-13 16:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by KENYA J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a intermission. To tell her that she can do better, that she doesn't need to be treated that way. Tell her she can make money and she can get a place to stay or even if you were nice enough you might let her stay with you for a while till she stops thinking of her self as no place to go no money and all. Tell her she is somebody and she can meet nicer, sweeter guys who will treat her with respect.
2007-02-13 16:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by sammi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably goes back because she's comfortable knowing him, knowing someone will be there. it's not easy to sit on the sidelines, but reassuring her that she will be okay if she moves on will ultimately sink in. whatever you do, don't be negative about it, meaning don't put her down for going back. mention what you notice she's doing and why you think it. don't say "you're stupid" or anything like that because it will just drive her back because she'll feel like she has no support on the outside. remain her friend, invite her over, spend more time with her. eventually, she'll get the courage she needs to get away from him.
2007-02-13 16:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by alice_aires 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to save herself and stop calling you crying if she is unwilling to get out of the loser relationships she seems to like so much.
2007-02-13 16:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SHE ATTRACTS THESE MEN, BECAUSE SHE CONTINUES TO STAY WITH THEM AND SHE ALLOWS THEM TO TREAT HER THIS WAY. SHE'S STUCK IN THIS PATTERN THAT INVOLVES DATING MEN THAT TREAT HER BAD. SOUNDS AS IF SHE HAS LOW SELF ESTEEM AND INSECURITIES. SHE NEEDS SOMEONE LIKE YOU TO PUT THERE FOOT DOWN AND TELL HER LIKE IT. SHE NEEDS A WAKE UP CALL. YOU SHOULD DO THAT FOR HER.
2007-02-13 16:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe could she stay with you or something sound like she needs out of that relationship... bad
2007-02-13 16:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Osita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno
2007-02-13 16:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by yung_blood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋