I'm 14 years old and have never had a boyfriend. A 16 year old whom I haven't known for very long asked me if I'd go to the movies with him this weekend and I told him I'd give him an answer tomorrow. He's nice.....but I don't think I know him well enough. And the fact that he's two years older than me makes me a little uncomfortable. How do I let him know I'm not interested without making him feel bad. I know he'll ask why. I'm not exactly experienced with this type of thing so...help?
2007-02-13 08:23:08 · 11 answers · asked by Sarah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Blame it on your parents. Tell him that they won't let you go out with a person older than you, esp. one that drives. Honestly, it's not a big deal and your parents will gladly say to use them as an excuse. Esp. if you are uncomfortable.
Doing this makes you look okay and not mean and not feel bad in front of him.
2007-02-13 08:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me say that you "trying" to tell him the correct thing makes the whole situation negative because you're not wanting to be honest, you're wanting to be politically correct and that hurts more than your honesty.
Already saying that you'll give him your answer "tomorrow" gives him false hope. That is not cool. If you simply tell him "thank you" for the invitation but you're going to have to say "no", lets him know that you are closing the door to his offers.
I suggest you give him the "brush off" without hurting his feelings if you prefer. He won't know why you said no, let him think about it. If he presses you and wants to know "why", then he's a jerk and its okay then if you tell him its because you're not interested.
2007-02-13 08:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can try to make it a group date with a bunch of people in order to make it more comfortable...
Or you can just tell him straight "I'm sorry, I dont know you too well yet. I am just not comfortable with going out with you right now."
In that case you will have to decide if you want to continue at least a friendship with him to see if you DO like him at all or not...
2007-02-13 08:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him he's nice but your not interested in him in that way. If your too polite he'll think that means he still has a chance or he could win you over. So make sure your clear and direct and simply say No !!!!
2007-02-13 08:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rough...I've never been good at rejecting somebody myself, so I always just blew them off until they got the hint. It's not nice, but it works with minimal bad feelings for you (being that you ignore or avoid him, therfore not actually having to communicate with him). I did try the honest approach once, and it led to an all-night why-don't-you-like-me conversation...it was horrible. OH, you could also lie and say your parents don't allwo you to date...that way the blame falls on your "uncool" parents and not you.
2007-02-13 08:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by scaryopossumkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely say, "Thanks, but I'm not interested". If he's not trying to hear that, then just turn up the volume and get ready to get real with him if necessary. No means NO! Sometimes guys think girls who don't tell them no outright are actually trying to play hard to get and they tend to get amped up. Just feel free to let him know that you're just not ready.
2007-02-13 08:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you'd like to get to know him a little better before yall start hanging out like that, but that maybe in a while ya'll can hang out like that.
2007-02-13 08:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Just say "No, thank you."
If he askes why, don't make anything up; just tell him you don't want to go.
Honesty will get this guy away from you that much quicker.
2007-02-13 08:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your parents said you cannot go out with him and if he has a problem with it, talk to them about it. Tell your parents. They should be warned in case he shows up.
2007-02-13 08:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as honest as you can...let him know that your just not inrested in him that way and thank him for the offer
2007-02-13 08:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋