My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months.When we are in public outside of school(high school) + when we are alone, he always makes me his 1st priority. But when we're at school, he treats me not like his gf, but his friend. Sometimes he puts his arms around me + occasionally kisses me. But he usually pays more attention to his friends at school. He doesn't see his friends outside of school as much as he sees me. He always says that he loves me, but why can't he show it when we're at school? I'm his 1st gf so maybe he's not used to PDA + he said he's trying to change but I think if he really loved me, wouldn't he not care who saw him with me? I'm so confused. I really want to be with him and I've been patient w/ him trying to change, but recently I've become upset about this. We almost broke up a few weeks ago b/c he thinks I deserve someone better than him. I just want him to be comfortable. What are some of your opinions about this? Please help!!!
2007-02-13 08:21:15 · 15 answers · asked by ♥kisses_in_the_rain♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't push him. I think that you should be the one getting used to it. PDA isn't something that everyone is comfortable with, nor should they be in my opinion. Be grateful that you are his number one priority outside of school. He may just be doing this to save face. You know? Guys get a lot of crap from their guy friends. His buds are really important to him too. So, let him have that time when at school.
2007-02-13 08:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by ilovecopeland 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the PDA. Perhaps you are counting on him too much for your own self-esteem. Some people just aren't comfortable being demonstrative in public, and it can make people around you uncomfortable as well. Does he treat you with respect? If the answer is yet, let him be. Asking him to change is not the answer.
2007-02-13 08:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Green Alien Chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be more patient. Two months is not enough to know one another.
Time will tell whether you's are compatible, and what he's motive/s is/are behind the action/s you do not like.
Maybe he has a valid reason/s for not wanting to get too involved while in the school grounds ?
Schoolwork is very important, maybe more important than getting too deeply involved , at this time.
Your education is a big part of your futures.
2007-02-13 08:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Featherman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is new at this, so you do need to give him a break. If you hang out w/ him outside of school and he only sees his friends in school then you need to respect that time that he has because it's not very much. Take the opportunity to spend time with your friends. You don't have to be together every moment.
I understand that you want to be treated well and respected, but you have to give a guy his space otherwise he is going to go nuts.
2007-02-13 08:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry to tell you this.
You want a mature relationship with an immature individual. It's not his fault, most boys in highschool are just not ready for a real relationship.
If you both were older, I would tell you to try to work it out, but I don't want to give you a lot of false hope.
Here a x reasons why he's acting this way.
1) He's too immature for this relationship
2) He likes you but doesn't want his freinds to know (if this is the case, then he doesn't love you / immature..)
3) He doesn't like/love you
Tell him how you feel and tell him you don't want to be with him if that is how he acts. And mean it.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-13 08:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't need hugs and kisses like we do. It's not that he cares who sees, he just doesn't think about it. Really. Guys are just different than we are. If he gives you lots of affection when you're not at school, just be content with that. His buddies would probably give him a hard time ,too, so cut him some slack on that point. If you don't , he's liable to break up with you from the pressure you're putting on him. Just relax.
2007-02-13 08:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u both only been 2gether for 2 months so u probably dont luv him and vice versa and if he see u all da time out skool den he probably jus wanna chill wit his friends n skool. its not like he completely ignores u, and u said it urself, he dont c his friends outside of skool more than u, so i think ur over reactin, but if u 2 went 2 different skools would u feel like this? ill answer that 1, NO, so as long as u 2 are talkin and around each other sometimes n skool then u dont have nuthin 2 worry about
2007-02-13 08:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by playatm25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a social thing. Getting too mushy mushy in school can also be a problem, especially in high school - and especially with teachers and principals. Just graduate from high school and then you can do what you want to. But right now it is probably better that he is not falling all over you in the school itself.
2007-02-13 08:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy, having completed high school (successfully, thank you) I can tell you that is that he doesn't like PDA, is afraid of being made fun of by his friends and being seen as a poofy-girlie man.
Furthermore, we don't get much better with age.
2007-02-13 08:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when he talks to his friends he wants to keep balance in his relantionship. He doesn't want to blow off his friends. I wouldn't take worry about when he said you deserve someone better, he is just complimenting you. I would just let him talk to his friends and have a little bit of room. If you think that you are beginning to grow apart, then just try to hang out with him and his friends.
follow your ♥
2007-02-13 08:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kayley M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋