You need to tell someone- this is not something you can deal with yourself and it's not something she can stop on her own. Cutting is a way to cope with stress- it is unhealthy and addicting and it only gets worse. Those who do it (I used to) feel better when they do and they can't stop on their own, they need professional help to learn to cope in a healthy way. She has other issues that a causing her to harm herself because she has no other way to deal with her emotions. She may be angry at you at first, because it takes away her control (or what she thinks is control). but, you are not equipped to help her, and neither is she. If you feel comfortable with a teacher at school or a school counselor or even the principal, tell them- they know what to do and who to call- they will listen and not ignore it. Tell your parents or another adult you know and trust to follow through and make sure she gets the help she needs. There are local crisis hotlines in the front of your phone book you can call for help. Good luck and good for you for caring so much to look for help.
2007-02-13 09:23:49
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answered by Jennifer S 3
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Yes, they are right. Your girlfriend's actions will always speak louder than her words. If you are having problems trusting her, make sure that it is all her and not you. What are you insecure about where she is concerned? What are you afraid of? Something is fueling you to make this decision. Since this is your first relationship, she may have simply come into your life to help you to "grow"--to prepare you for the next person. Without trust, you don't have much to build upon that will lead to a healthier relationship between you two. To be sure that you want to breakup with her, ask yourself this question. If you were out and saw her with another guy, how would that make you feel even with the trust issue in place? If you can say, it wouldn't bother you, then break up with her. If it does bother you, keep working at it. Take care:>)
2016-05-24 06:24:39
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answered by Anonymous
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She cuts herself, cause of something that she is not coping with, and that is the only way that she knows how to cope with it, an it is an unhealthy way of coping and she really needs to learn some new and healther ways of coping. Well if her family is not there for her, then you really do not know what might of happen between her and her family, there are still family secerts out there, and she might of stuff some of the abuse that might of happen to her, deep down inside of her, and when, it starts to come up, or something reminds her of it, then she cuts. She really needs to see a therapist on a weekly bases, and start telling them the truth, cause it is going to be the truth, that sets her free, and while she is going over these issues that she needs to deal with, she can learn some new and healthier coping skill, so she does not have to cut any more. And it sounds like you are there for her, and give her the support that she needs, and that is one important thng, that she needs, very much, right now. So try to get her in therapy and maybe even go with her, so she will quit not telling them the truth, cause she really needs to work out these problems.
2007-02-13 10:13:31
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answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4
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People cut because they don't have enough endorphins in their brain. Pain produces an endorphin release with has a nice numbing effect, and it is also is the brain chemical that gives a person a sense of self-esteem.
If you've ever accidentally hurt yourself, you know you feel pain, then almost dizzy/numb and then even a little silly- that's an endorphin rush. (Some people believe this could be why women stay with men who beat them- the pain actually does give them a physical rush.)
There are drug-free ways to elevate the endorphins. One is by diet. Eating foods that help to increase endorphins, and creating a balance. Foods high in fat increase endorphins and make you happy (“feel good” neurotransmitters.) To help keep your moods on an even keel, choose healthy fats such as monounsaturated fats found in olive oil, almonds and avocados.
http://www.showcook.com/mood_food.htm
Other ways: exercise, music, bubble baths, singing, dancing, doing things you enjoy, laughing- all the pleasant activities.
Negative ways to raise endorphins are: arguing, picking at scabs, causing yourself physical pain, eating a lot of sugar, reliving arguments or painful memories in your head.
http://www.recoverfromdepression.com/betaendorphins.htm
I don't believe this is a "mental" problem in the sense that she's mentally ill, but I believe this is an imbalance in her body chemistry that she can work to overcome with food, nutrition, and different activities.
2007-02-13 09:35:25
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answered by Anonymous
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I think that you need to tell someone. Her actions are very distructive and can cause to more problems. She may get made at you but don't you want her better? Cutting is a way of calling for help and you have the power to help her. maybe you could go with her to a counselor and provide moral support for her. Good luck. I really hope you choose to help her.
2007-02-13 08:23:25
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answered by Anonymous
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My husband cuts himself because he is so angry, depressed and feels so much pain from a traumatic incident that happened to him that when he cuts his arm or face it releaves the pain and he feels better. I know it sounds horrible but that was what his psychologist told me. He has greater control now but is also suicidal and had been diagnosed with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) it is hard but we get through it together just get her the best support and love and find a good psychologist.
2007-02-13 09:56:43
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answered by IzzieB 3
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Tell somebody and ask them to keep your name confidential. Somebody needs to get her help. Some people you could talk to would be a school counselor, teacher, one of your parents, minister, counselor in the community. You can even call the hospital, they have resources to help her. If you love her, you will get her help, no matter what it takes.
2007-02-13 08:23:21
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answered by blue_girl 5
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You do need to tell someone.Maybe someone you trust.She dus need help and you know that.you are a good person find someone that gets what youer saying.I think she knows she needs the help too.Best of luck.......
2007-02-13 10:38:10
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answered by xo 2
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you should defo's tell someone, if she's been doing it for ages talking to you isn't gonna help her. It will be best in the long run and she love you all the more for it x Good luck, she's lucky to have you !
2007-02-13 09:20:32
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answered by Madness 3
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Tell someone. She will hate you for it. But in the long run she'll be happy to know that someone cares about her and is willing to help her.
Hope it helps.
2007-02-13 08:44:35
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answered by swimming.gir06 3
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