Am I being stalked?

Question

I went out with this guy for a month starting in December.On New Years he told me loved me so I decided that because I wasn't feeling the same we should break up. I broke up with him on that Sunday.I did it over the phone but told him I would see him on the 9th because he wanted to talk.I reiterated my feelings and agreed to be just friends.He called me throughout the week asking if we could hang out on the weekend and I became irritated. He called me 1/15 saying it was important we talk and he kept saying he wanted to be with me.I told him we would not be together nor friends because he would not respect my feelings and that was that. He sent me three text messages the next day saying various things.He called me that night about four times and more texts.I finally answered and told him to never call me again and he said it was done.Since he has sent me flowers, more texts saying he loves me, a letter, pictures, and a music CD.I haven't responded.Is it serious enough to contact police?

I think some people don't understand. I don't like this dude. I don't WANT to get him in trouble, I want him to leave me alone. That is the whole reason for me asking. Why would I want to spend my time and money in court if it was just about me being flattered? He won't repsect me when I tell him not to contact me so how am I the bad guy? Why should I have continued to date him if I did not love him and was creeped out by the fact that after five dates he's telling me he loves me? We absolutely could have been friends if he had not started this behavior but why would I want to be friends with him now or try to start a relationship?

Answer 1

I have been through the EXACT same thing. First off make sure you have made it perfectly clear that he is making you uncomfortable. Do return to sender on EVERYTHING he sends. If it continues, then absolutely get police involved. Sometimes it is enough if a brother or father (NOT a guy friend) calls him and tells him to leave you alone. Not to scare you, but be aware. Do not go out alone. Check your car before getting in and such. The guy who did this to me eventually got the picture...and then cut my break line. Be Careful! If you have a picture of Romeo, show it to your family, friends and coworkers. Have people watching out for you. I am really not trying to scare you , but DO NOT take this lightly.

Answer 2

I am citing examples of Cyber-Stalking.
Especially by family members and others against the writings of people at
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-1a_pIcAifbCjW95xF_KekveREV4-?cq=1 ESPECIALLY Max Rafael Waller. Today Max Rafael Waller told his Mother Maria Mercedes Waller and her friend Esther Curiel-Topete. 3 Caucasian Officers from the San Fernando Police Department tried to coax into taking their offer: The home address and telephone of fellow Officer Beverly Baker and Senior Lead of the LAPD Foothill Division 16 made an inappropriate remark: Are you going to stalk Senior Lead Officer Michelle Rodriguez of Sunland? ALL INFO ON THE OFFICERS WERE GAHTERED FROM THEIR RESPECTIVE WEBSITE AND SOME HAS INTENTIONALLY DELETED! Someone has been trying to take remote control of this PC I am using to SILENCE ME. The mouse clicked the x on my IE 7 browser and I am being FORCED to disconnect the mouse to finish my writings!

Answer 3

I understand how you feel. I had a guy do this to me before as well. Do not accept any more of his calls. You can contact the cops and see what they would advise, but I don't believe they will take the case seriously until he has verbally threatened physical harm to you or you catch him watching your house or showing up at your job.

Here is a link to a stalking resource site that list some stalking laws by state. http://www.ncvc.org/src/main.aspx?dbID=DB_Questions_and_Answers109

Answer 4

I'm not sure if this qualifies as harassment - however, if his behavior causes you fear you should contact the police. If you decide to go to the police, remember to write down each time he's invaded your privacy (date, type of contact, everything that could be important). And yes, stalking can be many things, for example unwanted contact (by letter or other means of communication).

Answer 5

Yep. He's a stalker. No, it's not serious enough to call the police yet. They will just tell you to stop overreacting. Wait until he starts physically following your or camping out in front of your house. For your own safety, you may want to not be alone. Always hang with friends. Particularly male friends. Maybe it's time to start casually dating someone else.

Answer 6

MQ2: Have you ever been stalked? Thankfully, no BQ: Which do you choose - Sting's solo paintings, or his stuff with The Police? I choose the Police BQ2: Favorite Beatles B-facet? This boy BQ3: Burial - yay or nay. Yay. Nay. Makes no change to me.

Answer 7

Not yet, this is what you do, next time he calls get one of your guy friends or brother or some male to answer the phone and tell him to stop calling or they will beat him up.

Then tell him that you are dating someone else and that it is over, he needs to stop sending you stuff or warn him that you will call the police.

Only the call the police if he becomes threatening. Like ,"im going to kill you if you dont go out with me"

Answer 8

Sounds like he is very persistent, but not to the point where I would label him as a stalker. The police wont do anything unless he is threatening or harming you. If I were you, I would tell him that you WILL call the police if he does not leave you alone. Good luck.

Answer 9

I wouldn't call the police just yet but I would tell someone... like one of your parents, a friend or a counselor just so someone knows what's going on. If it gets any worse, like he's showing up unexpectedly in places or talks about hurting himself if he can't be with you, then you should contact the police.

Answer 10

send all gifts back and do not answer anymore calls or texts. Change your cell number if you have to. Or tell him if he contacts you in any way , shape or form you will get a restraining order against him.